I love my wife and all that but strictly speaking every period is abusive, both physically and mentally. Is this acceptable in a modern society i ask you all.
I must admit, i just take it like a man and ask her to control herself but it find it terrible sometimes.
2007-03-15 02:26:55 · 55 answers · asked by JOHN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have told her that i may just crack one day give her what for but it wasn't the way i was brought up and in reality seems inconceivable.
2007-03-15 02:55:06 · update #1
It's not only unacceptable, it's illegal. More and more women are being arrested and charged with domestic assault against their husbands. It's nothing to be ashamed of, because I'm certain if you were not such a decent man, you would be hitting her back and that would solve the problem!
If you don't feel comfortable calling the police on her, you can simply tell her if it happens again, you are leaving and you won't be back until she receives the anger management and counseling she obviously needs.
2007-03-15 02:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is not right. It sounds like she has severe PMS and takes it out on you. Have her contact her OBGYN and make an appointment and go with her so she doesn't minimize her behavior (out of embarassment). Some women are helped tremendously by taking an anti-depressant during the week before their period as it helps decrease the mood swings considerably.
The only other suggestion I have is that when she starts behaving this way, calmly stand up, tell her that you are going to leave rather than be treated in this manner and calmly walk out the door and stay with a friend, family member or get a hotel if you have to until the next day. If she is not even attempting to control her behavior then this may help her see that it is unacceptable to you and that you will remove yourself from the situation when it occurs.
Good luck.
2007-03-15 02:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is unacceptable to hit anyone man or woman. You don't hear of woman hitting a man as much because most men would feel embarassed. I think you wife gets angry and hits you freely because she knows you will not strike her back. Therefore she has free rain. I would not hit her I would just leave next time. Go see a movie and kill a couple of hours let her think about it. She can not fight by herself and you won't have to sit and take this. If she knows you are going to walk away and be gone for a while she will learn to control herself.
2007-03-15 02:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in that relationship as well. It is not acceptable for her to do that at all. What you could do is tell her that if this doesn't stop you might just have to leave because you dont want your kids to grow up in an abusive home. Next, you might need to call the cops just to get a statement because if things gets worse your in trouble my friend. Ask a really close friend or someone that could talk some sense into her & seek counselling. When I did all that to my wife she did stop hitting me but then she started hurting herself. My situation is different to yours but just in case that happens you might need to involve the cops. Its not like you don't love her or you wanted to embarass her or anything like that. But you just have to somewhat protect yourself. Oh and another one would be just walk out and take a load off then talk to her sensibly when she's cool and ready.
Goodluck.
2007-03-15 06:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by Macky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not acceptable for one human being to hit another regardless of their sex. you both know what is happening and i'm pretty sure that no matter what the reasons, you would both like this to stop, there is counselling, but thats not going to stop the way her body is when she is having her period. this may sound silly to some, but taking the pill can actually ease the moods etc, it worked for me, although everyone is different. if this isn't an option, then you certainly need to speak to her when she is not on her period (because if she is, she'll not react too nicely to the confrontation) and see how she feels about it. this obviously isn't nice and her periods can not be the sole excuse for her actions. maybe see her doctor together and he may be able to point you in the right direction for some help. good luck
2007-03-15 04:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never acceptable to hit a spouse. I give you credit for not hitting her back.
She does need to find a way to handle her anger, a therapist would be able to do this for her.
When you say every period, are you speaking of her monthly cycles? If so this would be something for her to talk about with her GYN. If she is on the pill this could be the problem, I was a raving lunatic while on the pill. We went to using other protection so I could get off the pill. By doing so I was a much nicer person
2007-03-15 02:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by desiree c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is not acceptable at all, there are abused men in the world, I am not saying you are, but I do know one who is, and got out of him marriage because of it.
Taking it like a man and feeling terrible about it are two different things, ok maybe I have hit my husband a few times out of frustration but never to the point where he would have bad feelings about it, if every period is that bad, I would suggest to her that she talk to her doctor, there are medications that can help with the mood swings.
I wish you all the best, and I applaud you for not doing it back to her allot of men I don't think would be able to hold back if it is getting bad
2007-03-15 02:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not acceptable in any form, its abusive. I would if this was a friend of mine suggest she seeks some kind of advice from her GP, it maybe that her hormone levels are way off their usual balance at this time of the month. I guess you would find it difficult to approach the subject, but consider it. He behaviour over time could get progressively worse and if indeed you want to continue to love your wife Id suggest finding some way of talking about it with her. You dont have to live like this, and even in a marriage you shouldnt have to tolerate it either. Try and get it resolved asap before you reach your limit and discover that love just isnt enough.
Good Luck.
2007-03-15 06:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is having severe problem's with her periods and needs to see a doctor about them as soon as possible. I doubt very much if she WANTS to be physically and mentally abusive to you at these very trying times of the month for her--it sounds like her periods are very extreme though, and she just cannot help these feelings she gets, really they do need to be sorted out by professional people...before either you snap and retaliate, or an even worse tragedy befalls your family--which has been known to happen.
2007-03-15 22:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you should not have to put up with abuse from anyone. My brother who is a big guy by the way put up with abuse off his ex for 7 yrs. She even bit a huge lump out of his back in an argument with him. He never laid a finger on her. Warn her that you've had enough and that she'd want to change her ways and get help. Personally i think you would b wise just to leave but if you think she can change give her the ultimatum and see if she seeks help. Good luck babes x x x
2007-03-15 02:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋