It was just a greeting card he sent to her saying how much he miss her, he denied at first but then he told me she was somebody he met before me and that was long time ago, he claims she contact him first. there were some times I will walk in to the computer room and he will close the window so I wouldnt see what he was doing, but I could see he was checking his Hotmail email, why he wouldn't let me see, if he has nothing to hide?.... We worked things out and he got rid off his email address so that woman wouldnt contact him. Im not stupid and if he is doing something, he will find the way to contact her. Im trying to forget about it. still can't get over it. It hurts because I left my family ,friends and country to come here for him, and now Im so confused. We are being married for 3 years. Some time I think why should I work my *** of in the gym if Im so depress all the time. Any advise?
2007-03-15 02:19:35 · 16 answers · asked by MIA 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I smell a skunk. Husbands don't email other women greeting cards. Not normal. Need to address this ASAP.
2007-03-15 02:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by bigdaddy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're depressed, who wouldn't be. Although, I would say, your problem is not this other woman, it is your marriage. By your husband emailing another woman he knew in the past is an indication of something wrong in the marriage. This is where you need to focus your energy on. First and foremost you need to clear any doubts you have about the woman even if you talk to her yourself. Find out the facts as to how indeed her and your husband began emailing and to what extent their relationship went. You need clarification so you know what type of situation you are dealing with. Then you and your husband could benefits from marriage counselling to sort out what is causing your husband to turn to someone else for whatever reason it may be. She just might have contacted him first and he got carried away with being flattered. The attention maybe felt good to him. And it could be this was all it was, but as I said, you need to know or this will forever be lurking in your mind. Continue going to the gym, a good workout helps to relieve stress and by keeping yourself fit is on the positive side of things. Best of Luck to you!
2007-03-15 02:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your right I will feel the same way, even though that he said its been a long time ago,why write that woman, even if he say it was her that contact him first. It doesn't matter who made the first move, your husband need to block her email address if she tried to contact him but it was him that send an e-card to her.
Don't let him stop what you are doing like going to the gym, making yourself fit will be for your own sake, not his. Talk to him and tell him how you feel and how it makes you upset,your his wife and you have the rights to know whats going on in his mind. Tell him that if he can't be honest with you after what you did, (leave your family and friends),your relationship with him will not go anywhere. just say that trust must be earn and not to be given,..........remember don't let him..................wish you luck!!
2007-03-15 02:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
totally understand where your coming from something similar happened to me and my hubby. (a co-worker kept calling at 3, or 4 am) the thing i did was keep checking up on him, every time i felt he was doing something behind my back i checked up on it. I havn't found anything, but you aren't having these feelings for nothing or to be mean to him. also i know this sounds extreme but i get paranoid when people lie to me, so i had him take a lie detector test. Your gonna be depressed i left my family friends a career and everything i knew to come over here and be with him, and its like they don't appreciate it no? make him prove to you that he's not hiding anything, and if he won't leave him....and if he is leave him. if he's not doing anything wrong take a deep breath and let it go, but if he is go home to your familia.
2007-03-15 02:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I caught my husband doing the same thing recently and I got in contact with HER! Told her to back off (in so many words ) and he`s trying to stop it if he gave up his email address. But my husbands behavior was the same and I now have trust issues even though I know its stopped. It hurts I know, but you`ll have to decide if you can continue on with your marriage or just pick up the pieces and move on. It`s hard when you love them so much. God Luck to ya, hon!
2007-03-15 02:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the PAST my a--!!! Ask yourself.. GEE dude, then WHY are we dealing with it in the PRESENT??? Whatever his reason, it's not right and he knows it. Tell him that from now on he is going to have to do something different concerning email because he has broken your trust. If he has nothing to hide he will be happy to do that.
2007-03-15 02:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't the net cool there are so many people getting busted on here its unreal . If there going to cheat on the net there going to do it in real life . You better keep working you *** off at the gym so you can get another guy .
2007-03-15 02:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to your husband about the issue again. Tell him your still not comfortable with it all. Tell him if it's that big of a deal for him to have contact with her, that you would like to meet her. If he refuses then I would say to become suspicious.
2007-03-15 02:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tqalk about it to him - if he denies - investigate. Look at the history on the computer. Get a stealth keylogger - have proof
2007-03-15 03:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Def, keep going to the gym! All the more reason. Your prob also hot so moveon, no worries :)
2007-03-15 02:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋