If sex was great because you and another person have been hanging out for a few months, but there is no other commitment other than the two of you are good enough to share very intimate moments with each other and even more intimate parts of yourselves will the guy share those moments with you because there are no strings or obligations between the two of you or could it be because he may really enjoy having sex with you. I have been having sex with this guy for about 7 months and sometimes we go a few weeks in between and sometimes a month or so, but I was wondering does he call me because he enjoys sex with me or because there are no strings. Also I AM using protection, and he is my ONLY partner. With my demanding school schedule I don’t think I could do a relationship right now. I was just wondering why would a guy keep coming back. I don’t want a commitment or a relationship, but sometimes I do wonder what’s on his mind. Can a guy become attached, if so how would you know?
2007-03-15 02:18:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you falling in love with him? you might need to observe his behaviour, like does he ask you out for movies and things that couple do besides sex? if it is only for sex, i guess he is just looking for that, that's all
2007-03-15 02:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by isabella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when you end the physical relationship and start another with someone else. Then you'll see what occurs. Boy i wish I knew you before you started this. Only because I went through a similar situation that went on for 6 years until it was recently ended. The misery and pain I went through (she did too as well) were unbearable at times. However as i said my/our situation was abit different than the one you find yourself in.
Its hard for me to fathom how anyone cannot have some type of emotional attachment to the other person. Especially carrying on as long as you have. Sex is a very intimate act and love usually comes with it. Oh sure...one can have sex like a one night stand and not feel any emotion. maybe see one another once every few months and still have nothing more than the urge to feel good through sex. But to just think it doesn't exist or that it can be shut on and off like a switch...no...it's something I can't imagine.
2007-03-15 02:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has the same thing on his mind, you don't want a commitment and neither does he the sex is a great relief and must be good or he wouldn't come back at all. And yes he can get attached but there are different degrees of attachment so which one who knows, and to know if he is attached to you he again would be there with you as much as possible. It kind of sounds like you are getting a little attached to him, how do I know that, if you don't want a commitment then you shouldn't sometimes wonder what’s on his mind that should not be a concern.
2007-03-15 03:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem with you is,you think guys are always testosterone driven animals infront of girls.Well,it's not so.
Think about it.If the guy just enjoys sex with you,and you dont ask for anything else,why would he tell you all his intimate stuff?
Seven months,a long duration i'd say.To answer this correctly,hows he with the other girls?Does he go out with a new girl every weekend or is it just you for him.If it was just you then you must be pretty hot for that guy,or he must have gotten attached to you.
If he's an every-weekend-new-girl type ,then there's not a big chance that he's attached to you.
2007-03-15 02:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. It's a combination of both, I think. Obviously the sex brings us back, but the NSA angle plays to the "pursuit of the thing we can't have"
He'll probably become even more attached, until you start retuning affections and laying down your expectations of the relationship. One the pursuit is gone, I don't think he'd follow through.
If you *really* don't want a relationship with him, stop trying to figure it out and just enjoy yourself. If you find that you do....good luck...most guys are gonna bolt.
2007-03-15 02:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by Level Headed Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said it yourself, He likes the sex AND there are no strings attached. And hello, you're in a relationship if someone is doing you. I'd get yourself under control and have some self respect and stop doing some guy that just calls you to get off. You don't NEED him that much
2007-03-15 02:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by bigdaddy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Madam, "Keepin it Real" as you requested: He likes you, but he doesn't realize that you are just being a H O. Yes, when you have sex with no emotional attachment you are being promiscuous. Number of partners does not matter when it comes to getting your ho-card stamped.
Sex does not keep guys coming back if they don't like you.
2007-03-15 02:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't he come back? There is no such thing as bad sex... just good and better sex. he won't become attached unless you push for it or if he can't get sex anywhere else and you cut him off.
2007-03-15 02:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enought information to give a useful response.
Do you stay in touch with one another on a regular basis? Phone calls, etc...
2007-03-15 02:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by thundrrbolt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes the sex. and since he doesn't pressure you to make it more often, i don't think there's a big attachment. you'll know when he wants more because he'll spend all of his time with you, not just when he wants a release.
2007-03-15 02:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by billyjoemikey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋