...a meeting with the Parental Coordinator to clear up all matters of fiance', passport renewal, out of state travel and many things my son wants to tell her since he is afraid of her temper when he expresses anything to her of snesitive nature. She refused the meeting claiming emotional blackmail, last week she used the words alienating our son from her friends and family - remember she abducted our son at 3 years old and he is 8 now, he remembers alot. He has a problem with her family since the grandfather hit him in the head and screamed at him for accidently dropping the dog, she started spanking him for the same accident "daddy he was too heavy for me so I had to drop him or I would have fallen down the stairs"...she refuses to discuss any issues that our son is having nor communicate with me and blames me for the failure of all. Emails have been flowing with these baseless accusations...it seems she is preparing for a custody strike and the parental coordinator is behind it.Help
2007-03-15 02:17:36 · 9 answers · asked by RealEYES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She constantly blames me for things that don't even happen. The judge ordered child related correspondance only and she keeps sending me emails accusing me of everything under the sun...and I don't even talk to her...I feel I am being set up for a huge fall and ambush...it seems she is trying to abduct him again legally - there is no domestic violence, drugs or abuse or cheating on my part...does it sound like I am dealing with an insane person?
2007-03-15 02:20:31 · update #1
I do not talk bad about his mom...when he has questions I do not lie to him...he knows his mom has lied to him in the past...and he knows the parental coordinator lied to him and to both of us..he has no problem going to court to talk to the judge and tell her he wants to live with me...he cannot stand her fiance'...she refuses to introduce us even though I have asked several times..her family makes things up to her or she twists the facts to use against me...maybe both...they have denied me cutody and visitation rights when she was out of town...so I take the cops to their home to get my son...he understands all of this and why I had to take those steps because he is afraid in that house of her family...but she twists that incident and accuses me...she raised the question when I expressed my disapproval of her then boyfriend - now fiance' - sleeping over at her place while our son was there - "M is not required to be present when E sleeps over at your place" she flipped "non of your
2007-03-15 02:48:50 · update #2
keep notes, records, witness's - EVERYTHING!!!! - & tell her you'll see her in court.
2007-03-15 02:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by Redrum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is nuts. Do everything you can to keep your son away from her. Get your own parental coordinator. If you have legal custody of your son do what every you can to keep it that way. I don't know where you live but in Arkansas when a mother looses custody of her children the courts don't think much of her and the possibility of her getting custody again is next to impossible. If she abducted your son when he was 3 she should not even have any legal rights to him. This poor child. Think of all the mental and physical abuse she has put him through. I am afraid for him and what kind of person he will turn out to be years later if she is allowed to continue to see him. Get a lawyer and see if your son can tell the judge the things she and her family have done to him. At your son's age the judge will not put him on the stand. He will take him into his chambers and talk to him and he will do what he feels is best for your son. If you have this done and your son has to be there let him know he doesn't have to be afraid because whatever he tells the judge you or anyone else will not know what your son has told him. Another thing get your son some counciling because from what you have said there is physical and mental abuse that he has to deal with and that is too much for an 8 year old to deal with by himself. They can and will help more than you can. If your son tells his counciler the thing she and her family have done to him then you can use that in court against her. This will get dhs involved and believe me she doesn't want that. Me as a loving mother myself if think she should never be able to see him unless it is supervised by someone you trust. When you go to court don't loose your temper. I know that is hard dealing with a nut case like that, but if you loose you temper with her then it will look bad on you. Don;t let her get to you. That is what she wants. There is a difference between a mother and a mom. She is a mother. That means she just got him here. If she were a mom your son would not be afraid of her and she would have never left him or given him up for anything in the world. You seem like a great dad. Keep it up, and good luck. God bless you.
2007-03-15 03:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by Shery W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
answer:yes you are dealing with an insane person. My step dad had to deal with this and so did his new wife. what you HAVE to do is get a journal and record everything she does to you or your child (I MEAN EVERYTHING, even if she's nice) save all the emails get a recorder and record your phone conversations and a hallway camera so if she ever hits your child on your turf or abuses you she can't deny it. it took my step father 6 years to get his daughter back. and what finally got her back to him was his ex wifes son's girlfriend. I got his new wifes daughters back to her. (we saw and witnessed things that their ex's were doing to their kids and went to court with them) Make friends with people who are aquainted with your ex. Make them see your not a bad person like she says you are, and they'll eventually tell you things and be on your side. that's your best bet but from experience, you'll loose right now unless you have craploads of evidence, but you'll win in the long run. just stick it out your childs life and future depends on it.
2007-03-15 02:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, talk to your local Social Service child abuse unit, disregard her emails and accusations but print them off for future use. Get your son in counseling.
2007-03-15 02:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by curious74432 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are not responding to the e-mails and I also hope you are saving them AND printing them out for your attorney.
It sounds like you are good at pointing out all her flaws but don't forget to look at your own as you can work on your flaws but not hers. Keep in mind that your son LOVES BOTH OF YOU no matter what and quit trying to turn him against his mom. It will back fire on you later. And it is totally wrong.
2007-03-15 02:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it may not be 100% unbiased but you have specific rights too. they are time limited and you could demand court enforcement of most events. get as much real irrefutable doc's supporting what things you put out as your actions,situations.....i once read that : To the degree to which one overreacts to information will be in inverse proportion to its accuracy. don't show surges of outrage to her arrows. no?
and act as swiftly as she can set the plots in motion against you.get the child to professional to doc his feeling of whats up...shows you putting his interest first...he will seek the less chaotic team no? Don't trust she will be fair or no holding back Cuz her role warrants delicate treatment.Game on.kick or be kicked.
2007-03-15 03:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by Leigh M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to court. You ALL need to consider counseling. It sounds like this little boy is a rope in a tug-o-war.
2007-03-15 02:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound's like she is very unstable and you need to keep everything that she sends you.You also need to go to court and file for custody.Youe son is the one that is suffering here and that need's to stop.
2007-03-15 02:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to quit E-mails and get a lawyer. This woman scares me and I don't even know her. Get someone who can beat her at her own game.
2007-03-15 02:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋