2007-03-15 02:15:12 · 7 answers · asked by K.W. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just went through the same situation of an 8 year relationship, but he found another girl. It felt like it was the end of the world and I was depress for 3 months really bad, stayed home and never talked to anyone. It is going to be really hard at first, talk to family and friends. Don't sit at home alone go try to have fun, even though it's hard to do. It will occupy your mind for a while. Please try not to dwell on the situation this only makes it worse, try to keep yourself busy so you aren't sitting around thinking all the time. I went through this for 3 months and then finally realized I still loved him but if he's doing this to me he isn't at home thinking of me in the same way so why should I be sitting here crying over him. I started to feel better about myself and went out to have fun with friends. As soon as I stopped calling him and he knew I was out having fun and wasn't down anymore he tried to come running back. and if you do take him back like I did it will be hard to work things out for a while. If you need more help you can email me with any fears or feelings you have. z019884@yahoo.com. A guy did this for me and I would email him when I would start feeling anxious that I just had to talk to him and he talked me through and helped me alot.
2007-03-15 03:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by padros 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had to get over someone that I was with for 9 years and had a child with. It is absolutely devastating! I actually bought a book about how to break your addiction to a person :) It helped a little. Unfortunately there is no quick way. It takes time. Every day it gets better, but time is really what you need. You need to live life for yourself and do waht makes you happy. Get rid of all the pictures of that person and anything that makes you really think of them. It took me about 2 years and finding the true love of my life. Now that I am in a new relationship that is so much healthier and happier, I don't miss anything about my past relationship. It's hard, but it will get better! I promise!
2007-03-15 09:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it won't happen overnight, its a process. u will have to accept what has happened, stop having any expectations about a future here, than get some grief counseling, join a support group, meet others who are going through this. grief is the one thing that responds to human support. so find a close non judge mental person to share your hurts with. u will feel as if its the end of the world for awhile, especially being with him that many years. also distance yourself from all previous friends and family members u use to have a relationship with, if they were his friends and family.
2007-03-15 11:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no answer really only u can know how to do this, but if i were u i would get up and get out start doing things that u enjoy, things that wont remind you of him. the more busy u r the less time u will have to think about him or her.
2007-03-15 09:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by greengrass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to move on start going out with friends and doing things to keep your mind off him. You will get over him.
2007-03-15 09:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find out let me know . I just left a 7year and 7 month relationship . I feel your pain if you would like to talk I M me at C_ANN0767
2007-03-15 09:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by CYNTHIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow..8 years...that is going to take alooottt of time and effort to get over someone if it was that many years...if he or she still loves you, they are going to come back to you...if not then your going to have to cope and stay strong knowing the moments you two had was worth your memories and no regrets.
2007-03-15 09:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋