Do you ever feel that you are not in love with your husband anymore?

Question

What are the signs and feelings that you get which makes you think that you are not in love with your husband anymore?
How do you deal with it?
we are married for less than 2 years

Answer 1

Some days I love him, some days I hate him...

Two years after we got married, I wanted a divorce like nobody's business....
Four years later, 2 babies, I want us to be together a very long time....

It could just be a phase.....
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Answer 2

I think you are confusing lust with love. The honeymoon period is over. Love is actually a verb - not a noun. Love is shown in acts that we do for our spouse. Some of us get lazy and expect our spouse to continue with loving thoughts of kindness and we don't. Or, we don't because they don't. It's your marriage and it's up to you to work at it. Try treating your husband the way you did at the beginning. You know, when you would give him massages, send him e-mails just because, called him out of the blue, wore something sexy just for him, made his favorite meal. You remember - when you were on your best behavior because you wanted to KEEP him. That is what happens - we think the other spouse has changed when in reality, we have also changed.

Feelings can be very, very deceiving - don't live by your feelings. You'll just do it again with someone else. The lusty stage doesn't last forever but that doesn't mean sex is no longer exciting. It's up to you and him. Sometimes sex will be ho-hum and other times absolutely fantastic. Normal - but not an indicator of love.

Good luck. And take some action!

Answer 3

Well I will say this. I have been with mine for four years in May. Yes, he does get on my every last nerve sometimes and Yes, there are times when I don't want to be around him. But... No, I never feel like I am out of love with him. Are you sure you are "out of love". A lot of times, couples think love comes easily. It doesn't. You have to work, you have to try. There was a reason you married him right? There's a reason that drew you into him, and made you see him as a lifelong companion. Try to spark that back up. Do a little something nice for him, Im sure he will return the favor. Try to spark that first romance that made you fall in love. If this still doesn't work, I can suggest marriage counseling. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I think that being in a relationship there are always ebbs and flows. Sometimes you will be absolutely crazy in love with your husband, and other times you will care about him, but not feel the passion. I think that is completely normal. Now, if it goes on for a long period of time without the fluctuation and you haven't felt any passion, then I would worry. If you can't stand to be in the same room with him, don't want to spend any time with him, don't want to share thoughts or feelings with him, or cringe at the thought of having sex with him, then I would worry. Sometimes you can just lose those feelings forever. I would try to rekindle something with him before making a final decision. Good luck!

Answer 5

Hey Girl:
Presently I am undergoing the same mind turmoil as you.I have been with mine for several years since i was 18 and from that time he has cheated,abused me,and made me wish I was dead.
Up to this year I felt worthless and like I was not good for anyone,I have always forgiven him and fell out n in love again n again.
This time I am outta love for good ,coz I have met a man who shows me all the happiness in the world.
I deserve some happiness,my heart is weary and it cannot take naymore heartbreaks.
So here are the signs:

1. u cannot stand his voice
2. u cannot stand making love to him
3.u pray he leave the house and leave u alone
4.u just can't picture having a child with him
5.Anything he says or dos gets u on ur nerves.
6.u can't imagine another year with him,mucless a lifetime.

well so far these are the things I am feeling...I hope I ahve helped u out.
Be happy , we women deserve it!

Answer 6

Not wanting to be close to him kissing, holding, making love, talking, going places together, or even sharing a meal. When you would rather do these things alone or with someone else. But be warned that this happens even to people who truly do love each other and it is normal. Some of us are creature of verity and is hard to just be with one. Some times we grow in different directions in our mentality. My spouse has been slower in his growth than myself and it's been hard to take at times. After thirteen years and going through this very thing many times we are still together and now I know it was really love the whole time and those times were normal but I did not let them break us up. But you have to be sure, do you really love him or is it some thing else. You have to be fulfilled in any relationship to be happy or it will not work out. You deserve to be happy, we all do, men and women.

Answer 7

I was married to a woman back in 1994 after dating her for seven years. After eighteen months I was told " I don't love you and I never did, I don't know why we ever got married." After three months of marriage counseling she left never to heard from again. She refused to work on the relationship so I was out of luck. I was forced to move on. I would urge you to determine what is making you feel this way. Maybe it is fixable. Is he rude or inattentive? Are you mismatched sexually? Are there financial problems? Do you just not respect him? Just make sure this is just not one party or the other unwilling to do the heavy lifting that is required to make a marriage work. Dont bail because its just not fun playing house anymore. Good Luck to ya. I have a lot to say on this topic so feel free to email me through yahoo.

Answer 8

Monogomy is not natural. I don't know any HONEST (i.e., not in denial) married woman or man that doesn't go through this. Hopefully, shared life experience, over time, helps rebuild the love... As you face life's challenges together and support each other, you get to know each other again and either you see the things you used to, or you see them as a different person than the one you once loved, and you move on. Takes some faith to hold it together through the down times...

Answer 9

I love my husband more and more each day, you just don't turn off love by the flip of a light switch, i guess if you stop caring and stop doing things together and start drifting apart that is a good sign that you are falling out of love.

Answer 10

Two years is not long at all. You need to be a woman and start doing some damage control. What is it about him or the marriage you don't like? What will need to change to make you happy? You need to come up with some answers and then sit him down and talk about it. Don't just throw away your marriage, put some work into it. Good luck...