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Question

my best friends mother said to me a few months ago that she was going to change her will ,as she doesnt like her daughters partner and thinks he is only with her for money ( ive said he was from the start but if she is happy what can i do ) anyway my friends mum wonted to change her will that if her daughter is still with her partner or married to him when she dies then she is not to get a penny and the money will go into trust for her granson and my son , this is my problem i have known my friend for yrs and yrs and her mother is like a mother to me aswell , this i going to start all sort of problems with my friend i dont wont to fall out with my friend over this were like sisters , my husband said if this is what her mother wontes then that is her decision , what should i do she changed her will last week so its in black and white .
the other thing is its not like its, a few thousand pounds its a hell of a lot of money , what would you do please help me sort this out any advice ,

ps . my main problem is i dont wont my son to be in the will.

Answer 1

if ur mate found that out she could have the will contested as you are getting your son to gain by this ,even though the lady decided for herself ,bit of a tough one and can see why you need advice the best thing you can do is get the mother to tell her daughter its not you that is doing it but your mate should be told so she would prepared for it .
but try to keep out of it .
funny how your mates hubby is thought by you to be there for money yet you are happy to have your son in the will and your mate gets nothing .... mmm

Answer 2

right first things first my family are in a huge legal fight right now that is basically down too a will.now depending where u live there are a number of things that could happen we are under Scottish law in regards to our problem anyway under scottish law all children have a legal right,so in real terms even if she tryed to keep her daughter out of the will she would be unable to do so there is also a process where being a cavete can be lodged this basically meen that there would be a civil action put in place and all assets would be frozen until it was deemed who was in title to what via the executor ie a court appointee person that would be legally responsible for every last thing left in the estate

Answer 3

I would leave as. If that's her wish then so be it. Between now and the time when the will is read, your friend may not be with this person, she may have found someone else, and it wouldnt be an issue.
Or, perhaps the mother could have a quiet word to him and explain he wont be getting anything, perhaps then he'll leave on his own.

Answer 4

you need to confrunt the mom about you not wanting the your son to be in the will. Plus you also need to tell the mom that she needs to talk to her daughters about this. The mom should not have put you in this situtation in the first place.
Good luck i know it is scary and all but you can do it :)

Answer 5

Basically it's not your problem. Other people's families are off limits. What the friend's mum wants to do with her money is her affair, no-one else's and certainly not yours, sorry.

Answer 6

I'm afraid that it's really nothing to do with you. (I mean that in a nice way, honest!) It's nice that you care about both of them, but you are going to have to stay out of it if you want to keep your relationships with them. Just be neutral, don't take sides and let them work it out for themselves. Pretend you are Switzerland! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Try and encourage the mother to talk to your friend about this so that she understands.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

hey, maybe ur friend loves her partner..i mean it's an awfull thing that u think about the money...her money, not urs...talk to ur friend and tell her that, then confront u ur friend and her mother..i mean com' on, it's her life, not her mother's life ur urs...

Answer 9

If that's what this woman wants then let her have it.
Don't tell your child about it however.
She might change it all again before she dies, so I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 10

I think u should tell ur friend because she definatly will find out, am Ugandan and we strongly belive that wat ur mother says is right as a saying goes the dirt in an elders' eye is wat accualtly sees,so take heart my dia its not that bad now but will be worse later.