I know it sounds really shallow, but I've had an incredibly tight vaginal passage all of my life. I couldn't even comfortably wear tampons until 18, and it took 2 months after losing my virginity to even enjoy sex without pain. Now that I am almost 30, my husband and I are considering having children. I am mostly terrified of the pain of childbirth (my OBGYN has told me my passage will make birthing difficult,) but also afraid that a child will permanently ruin my vagina as well, and make my husband lose interest in me. Any suggestions, answers, etc... People with stupid or crass remarks need not reply.
2007-03-15 01:45:06 · 6 answers · asked by theoriginalninjacat 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh my i am going to get personal here this early in the morning.
I had the same issues. I had to get my hymen cut and I had to be stretched every month when I was a teen. They felt i would need a c-section if I did not get stretched. ( was very uncomfortable to lose my hyem from my doctor.
My doctors figured it was because I was premature and my bladder only holds 300cc. Very little for a bladder...OK then came with my first child. Yes it was more comfortable for me to have sex after I had my son. I would start off just as tight but in a few minutes compared to 15 i was able to have intercourse fully.
If you do kegels, 60 a day or more you will have no issues with slacking compared to not. And you will have a stronger muscle skill. ( I do 300 or more a day or I can not have intercourse without pain.)
I can not see a husband lose interest. If anything it becomes more interesting with new things that you can do.
2007-03-15 02:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by charontheloose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it will change in a negative way- I have had two vaginal deliveries and my husband never indicated that anything felt different. I have always thought that the vagina is like a "rubberband" and it stretches and expands back down. I say go for it- you should be okay. Good Luck!
2007-03-15 02:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy of Two 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that should be the last thing on your mind!!! If you want a child go for it. It is a wonderful experience for you and your husband to give birth. You might find that sex after baby will be more enjoyable. I know it is for my husband and I. Your vagina is like elastic, it is made to stretch. And yes it will go back . I agree with the other women on here, you will know your body and your muscles more after a vaginal birth, and that can intensify a sexual relationship ten fold. Good luck.
2007-03-15 03:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no my sister's husband didn't even notice any differences in her in fact she said sex is better now becasue she knows how to use the muscles down there more because she can feel the better now. the vagina is designed to stretch and return to normal
2007-03-15 02:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had 3 vaginal deliveries and it's really not an issue... trust me... as someone else said, you actually know how to use those muscles after you've given birth and it can make things.. interesting..
I can understand that it is a question/concern but it really shouldn't be the ultimate in deciding whether or not to have kids..
2007-03-15 02:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No, a vagina is made to stretch. It will go back to its orginal form.
2007-03-15 02:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋