last night my hubby hit me for the first time in our 4 years together. i don't see what i did. i wanted to couddle last night, is that wrong. he made me sleep on the couch. what should i do.
2007-03-15 01:42:36 · 11 answers · asked by lisaanndubay 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he tryed to chock me and he hit me in the jaw
2007-03-15 01:52:42 · update #1
When someone acts so violently, it is not a sign of love. Your husband needs therapy. You should NEVER be hit by your husband. You are a grown adult, you don't need anyone telling you what to do, or how to be, and especially anyone beating you into submission. Making you sleep on the couch is evidence of another underlying problem that he should seek help for. It could be that he is stressed at work, or has other frustrations or anger issues in his life that he needs to deal with. I am not here to tell you what you want to hear, but he shouldn't be hitting you ever. In four years, in ten years, in 50 years... NEVER. If he won't seek counceling, you should get the police involved, if you can't do that, then leave him. You will get apologies from him and you may feel that he would beat you harder for trying to do something about it. These feelings are there because he instilled them in you through overbearance. Choking you... well, that is just murderous, cruel and sign of worse things to come. Something must be done, you are the one with the power to do something, so the choice, and the responsibility is yours.
2007-03-15 02:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by James L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say this was the first time he hit you "in four years"....does that mean he hit you before this? Or was this the first time? If he has hit you before, then he's blown his one chance. Time to think about moving on with your life without him.
If this was the first time he was physical with you, then find out what else has been bothering him. You may have just been the catalyst that put him over the edge and he unfortunately took it out on you.
Also when you say hit, did he punch you and try to do you harm or maybe just push you away a little too hard, there is a BIG difference.
2007-03-15 08:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by K B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the first time? I got news hun(from seeing my mom beat for years) if he hit you once, he will do it again. There is no "one time". What I would recommend is that you leave him for a few months. Stay with a friend or move out. he needs to get help do not take him back, he messed up big time. Once he gets help, you can give it another chance. You did nothing wrong hun, cuddling is great. He is just an assh*le.
2007-03-15 09:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you deserve better, and you deserve to be treated better. YOU have to believe that!! If he wont get help, than your best bet is to leave. Hitting you is not Love or respect, nor is "making" you sleep on the couch. He will never respect you if you dont respect yourself enough to put a stop to the abuse. You should also file a police report! Prayers comin your way, take care of yourself.
2007-03-15 08:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by MrsJ S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was abused for 20 years, he always said he was sorry. He was. But not because he hit me (which I did not understand at the time) but because he was afraid I would leave him. 7 children later, I got a divorce.
It will not get better it will only get worse.
2007-03-15 08:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did he hit you? No man should lay his a hand on a woman....Did he hit you hard or was he playing.... If he was serious than I would leave and pack my things.. NOt around him because he might get mad and try to hit you again
2007-03-15 08:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hit you? Did you hit him back? I would have, I won't put up with that crap!! But you could have called the police and maybe should have. Once the violence begins that's your red flag sweetie. Make him get counseling or get out!
2007-03-15 08:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and call the cops. What he did was wrong and it's not your fault. If my husband ever hit me I would be out the door with our child so fast I would have left marks on the carpet.
2007-03-15 08:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Bates 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i hope he hit u due to somethin unreasonable that u did.. if he did it while he was drunk or for any other petty reasons, dis is not an encouraged behaviour.. talk to him or both of u shud approach a counselor so as to talk things out and thus, it wil be explained that no man shud ever touch a woman in that way! dun let him bully u. be a strong woman..
2007-03-15 08:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by fizadora 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've seen this a million times. Once is never the end. I know it's going to be tough, and he might put on the works to keep you, but don't go for it. Keep away and get a divorce.
2007-03-15 08:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by rainydaysarebeautiful 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋