theres a particular girl i want and that im looking for to meet, but its like they dont want me?

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or and there being told to stay away from me. told not to get involved with me. i always end up getting approached by people im not interested in, or dont like the look of. for example. ive joined myspace, plentyoffish.com. and have been a member of them for two years. my photos are on both. the type of girls i want physically are, 23/29 year old chubby, plump, but not to fat. pale white, cute looking girls. BUT i never get THAT! i get approached from. and this is no joke. middle aged haggard tanned women. middle aged african women/ guys. turkish men. and these are deffinatly not my preferences, with all respect to them. ive recently been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, im a 29 year old male, whos suffered alot of trauma, for so long, and i simply want happiness and a life. my cpn has refered me for an assesment for therapy. i have horrible low moods, high anxiety, inner rage, low self esteem, paranoia. and i would love the company of the girl i describe right now

but instead im socially isolated, only wishing for that. im tired of being approached by people i dont want or dont like the look of, i know what i want. i wont lower my standards. why should i have to accept someone hand picked? because that how it feels. i feel jealous when i see, happy go lucky, young freshed faced guys, without any baggage, with the kind of girl i want. the young beautifull, chubby, cute, pale white girls...what can i do?

YOU!!! SAY!! GO!!! OUT!! YEH?? (CLENCHING TEETH) WELL! ITS! NOT! EASY!! TO!! GO!! OUT WHEN! YOU! SUFFER WITH!! HIGH FEELINGS OF ANXIEY AND PANIC, AND FEELINGS OF INNER RAGE! PEOPLE SUGGEST THIS LIKE ITS JUST EASY FOR ME TO GO OUTSIDE!

Answer 1

Is there any question you post that doesn't have you whining like a little b i t c h and mentioning your "personality disorder"?

Answer 2

you haven't exactly just described the perfect boyfriend: horrible low moods, high anxiety, inner rage, low self esteem, paranoia. Why do you want a relationship when you feel like this? What have you got to offer a girlfriend? Get your mental health problems sorted out first and then the right person will find you.

and dont limit yourself just to chubby white girls between a certain age. Dont you care at all what personality the girl has, and isnt this more important, especially given your current state of mind?

You have issues - I would address these before inflicting your problems on some poor girl

Answer 3

"Disorder" is meant relatively i think. None is in Order anyways.
you Should Stop looking for such people on the net ...and go to the streets. The chances are better. You can also make friends with people you want and keep distance from those you don't. I would advice you to go for Art of Living, Yoga and other recreational activities for your health and mind considering your troubled past. Don't let it repeat on this wireless world cause it has no faces either to let you know how badly you have been hurt and it will agrevate your problems and may not solve them.

Answer 4

And I'm sure there are plenty of cute, plump, girls who's idea of heaven, is to be with a paranoiac bloke, with low self esteem, & inner rage, who sits in front of his computer feeling sorry for himself.
Personally; I'm surprised there aren't hordes of them just trying to batter your door down 24/7.

Answer 5

you should open your mind, you shouldn't go out searching for some particular type otherwise you will miss everything else. also try approaching girls yourself if possible, don't just wait for people to approach you.

hope this was help full

Answer 6

Dedicate some of your free time to improving your written English and you may find that you get better responses from people.

Answer 7

have you considered leaving the house get off your computer and go and meet real people,