Have'nt spoken for two years & I want to be friends again - What should I do?

Question

My friend & I fell out a couple of years ago and havent spoken since. We fell out over something that I thought was silly - She thought I was going off with another friend and thought my other friend was giving her dirty looks all night, She said I ruined her night as we were out for some birthday drinks for her. I didnt see it this way & believed she was being immature & thought she'd get over it but she she didnt speak to me again & I didnt want to contact her first as I didnt want to argue about what happened. Now two years have passed and I want to get in contact with her to be friends again as I miss her friendship & our girly chats - What should I do? Should I just move on & accept that she doent want to be friends or should I try to to contact her & ask if she wants to be friends again & what should I say to her if I were to contact her? - i'm so confused - please help!

Answer 1

UThat kind of happened to me but it was kind of different. It wasn't 2 years.. But try this; Write her a note or email or I'm.. saying hey i know we haven't been talking but i think we should solve this i miss being Ur friend. Message Back Please. She should probably answer. And if she says she doesn't then you just have to just except and move on. But if she says yes then that's be good. But if she does say yes right away don't hang out like crazy. Take it slow CUZ otherwise you'll get sick of each other too fast.
Best of Luck.
=] <3Alexis.

Answer 2

I fell out with a girl i'd been friends with since we'd started junior school..........we were friends a good 16 yrs an fell out ab 3 yrs ago. I'd heard through a mutual friend that she'd had twin boys so i txted her just to say congratulations and that. I got a txt sayin she'd been trying to contact me for the last yr but had lost her phone with my num on it. We'll never b the same but we make time every couple of months to chat on the phone and keep up with eachothers lives.
Mayb you could jus send her a txt chicks sayin hi and that you hope she's well. Chances r she will respond positively x x x

Answer 3

.This happened to me many years ago.
I wrote my friend a letter even though she only lived around the corner. I do find writing is much better than a phone call or a visit.
If you write, she will read your words and have time to absorb them and think.
It all worked out good for me, after she got my letter, she called and we met up both agreeing we were in the wrong.
It was then and there we decided, IF in future one or the other had a niggle about something, we should not hold back and come out and say it so we could solve the problem there and then.
if you tell your friend the truth how you are feeling, then I am sure everything will work out for you both.

Answer 4

Call her. There's no point in wondering for the rest of your life what could have happened. Find out. She's probably more upset that you appeared to not care about her feelings. Ask her if she's willing to talk, let her know you miss her, and want to be friends again. Hear her out and try to make sure she hears you out. But if either of you get defensive, step back, and try not to invalidate. She probably misses you too. You can always talk about the misunderstanding part at another time.

Answer 5

Just give her a call and say you have been thinking about the close friendship you once had and that you really did appreciate it, you miss that friendship and are very sorry that it ended the way it did, you are just ringing her now to say you are sorry for any misunderstanding, sorry that you are no longer friends, you would like to start anew and if she is agreeable perhaps you could meet for coffee some time to catch up.

If she says no, just say you understand but please do call you if she should change her mind, you would be happy to re-establish contact.

Answer 6

This has happened to me with a few friends. I had a falling out with them and then later somehow we managed to run into each other again and become friends. Time matures you and she will probably understand that it was a dumb fight. If you miss her, she probably misses you. I think you should say hi and tell her you're sorry how things ended and that you miss her. I have reconciled with my friends, all except for one. I have taken responsibility for that though, I wasn't being a good friend to her. I think your friend will be happy to have you back in her life, she probably misses the girl chats too!

Answer 7

You really should get in touch with her. Its been two years since the incident, its possible she has just forgotten about it. Besides, you could just tell her that you are feeling sorry for what happened between you guys and that you would like to make up again.
If she is your true friend and still harbors feelings for you, she will appreciate your gesture.

Answer 8

Write her a simple letter (Pen and Paper -not email) and say that "you're sorry that you both fell out, and that you really miss her, value her friendship and want to see her again soon.. too much time has passed and you both need to mend your bridges."

*Good Luck

Answer 9

Get in touch with her, the chances are she'll be thinking the same as you. But it takes one person to make the first move. Before you know it you'll be laughing at the sillyness of it all. Good luck

Answer 10

If you are thinking of talking to your her than do it, you would be the more mature one if you did, at least you can find out what kind of freind she really is and anyway you wont have to wonder "what if ?" instead say "why not?". in the long run you will feel like you gave it gallent effort.