I love my husband. He's been very good to me and our kids. He does so much for us and asks for very little. Two problems here. 1- we rarely have sex. I wish there were more and he does too. But not only is there not enough time, but he does things all the time that turn me off. I've tried to ask him to do those things away from me, but he seems to not care. (Yes, some of it is gassy!) 2- He is the discipliner when it comes to the kids. Most of the time he's too hard on them and when he is, it ruins the night and there's no way of becoming intimate with someone who's in a bad mood.
He has never laid a hand on me until one night our 9 month old was crying in his crib. Dad was tired and frustrated and tried keeping the baby down by patting his head back down. My instincts told me to get the baby from him, but he wouldn't let me. It got to the point where he pushed me to my bed and almost choked me. Could this happen again and does it have to do with our sex problem?
2007-03-15 00:41:11 · 9 answers · asked by MissE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello !Miss E.
Dad may be tired and frustrated but there is no excuse for his abusive actions toward you or the baby.
Talk with him about this and let him know confidently that if he ever lays a hand on you or the children in temper you will leave and you will not be back.
All relationships have problems.
Communication with a sense of humour will bring you through the growing times.
You can't live under the same roof day after day without differences of opinion or some traits in each other which may be obnoxious but unconditional love in these situations is the best solution.
Take care!
2007-03-15 00:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is Yes, it could happen again. It sounds like you and your husband have other problems that are not mentioned. This has nothing to do with sex. You should seek counseling with your husband and individual counseling. If he does not agree you should probably start making arrangements to move on. You do not want to be in an abusive relationship of any sort.
2007-03-15 00:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by jrccm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Violence is not tolerable at any level, tell him that immediately. As far as the sex goes, you have to talk to him about this, and when you say he is "too hard" on the kid, does that mean hitting them hard? If so, that is also intolerable, either he stops being hitting the kids, or you pack your bags.
2007-03-15 00:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesnt do with the sex it sounds like he is abusive. u need to take ur children and get out before it gets too bad. he will hurt the kids next.
2007-03-15 00:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes my hubby was just as loving and he always works,so I am tired of this **** and now i am having an affair n considering a divorce soon.
These men donot care about our feelings!I suggest u divorce him quickly and find someone to love u as u desire,life is too short!
2007-03-15 02:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hurt you once he can do it again and why don't you think enough of you to get you and your child out of a potentially dangerous situation. How bad does he have to hurt you for you to take it seriously?
2007-03-15 01:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when u see changes, and he sounds really frustrated, and isn't the same guy, could mean he is seeing someone else. this will change them, almost as if we aren't important to them anymore, follow your intuition with him, he seems to have alot of disrespect towards u.
2007-03-15 03:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might be having an affair. Men separate emotionally when they are doing that. Check for that first. That might be your problem.
2007-03-15 01:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by Michael b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he can, and drinking and drugs will change them even more
2007-03-15 00:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋