we have been friends for a long time, and i know she loves me as a person and we are quite close. I love her cause of her quirks and her somewhat strange yet interesting habbits.... however today she acted differently....
I mentioned to her a few days earlier that i had feelings for her, Today - i asked her to meet me at the park - I was there - she was 15 minutes late, she came running and just ran and gave me this big hug and held on to me for a few seconds, then she took my hand and we started aimlessly walking and discussing strange and totaly random things....
I asked abt why she is so detached and why she has not gottten into a relation yet - she said - she's still healing and waiting for someone to get to that point where she knows that it may just be worth her time - she said she is waiting for something to hapen, and cant wait for love to happen again...
I was wondering what this means, as i did not uinderstand it.??
I want to be there? what do u think is happening?
2007-03-15 00:22:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she has you wait, it's actually a good thing, because you don't want to come in at a bad time in her life. Be there for her "no matter what", and don't push or stress her (you'll only stress her and push her away), and she will figure out what she needs to with thanks in her heart to you in the end, for your understanding and patience. Remember, no matter how long it takes, sometimes people are right by not moving to fast, and it's usually good to do that with the ones you don't want to hurt. Because you don't want to move into it so fast it crashes. What's the hurry, especially if you're young. Hope this helps.
2007-03-15 00:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by jamz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mich, the big picture is right in front of you, you said that you have feelings for her and she just act like the way she is. Could it be that she's been hurt before that she is really being careful to whom she wants to give her heart is?? Right now the two of you has this special relationship that she's very comfortable with,(best friends), all that you can do for now is be there for her.
Put aside how you feel towards her, but at the same time don't keep it in. The two of you needs to talk about feelings as man and a woman. Don't let her change the subject nor talk about something else. Make sure that she listen to you when you think that she needs to know how you feel, be gentle and at the same time be understandable,.............hope this help...
2007-03-15 07:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. When you said you had feeling for her, how did you express that? If you just made light of it, to see how she would react and really didn't share in depth, She most likely took it as part of your friendship. My best friend, after a night out having fun just him and I, called me up later and said to me , You know, I love you, I just love you, I was like that just a great thing, because I love you, I feel love for him, But it wasn't that kind of love that one feels for a intimated relationship.it warmed both your hearts as friends.or that's how I see it. So if you didn't express your self without question, then she didn't get where your coming from or she did and is putting out something to see.by stating she is waiting for something to happen. That could mean She is saying OK , whats your next move. So either make a move or express your self more clearly with out question on how you feel
2007-03-15 08:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE THERE, she is just letting you know that you are first on her mind when ready,keep doing what you are doing but let her know you understand her feelings at the moment, and that you are there to support her as a close friend, SHE will tell you when she's ready, to date again, be patient and take 1 step at the time, " remember, softly, softly, catchee mice" use the right manners! and good luck to you!!!
2007-03-15 07:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say this but it sounds like she recently lost someone that she still has deep feelings for and it is hard just to jump into another relationship.......if you really care about her just take it slow and become her best friend until you know where you stand...i would try not to get hurt because it is easily done...but i have a hard time myself dating anyone and getting close because of the way i was done on thanksgiving....i chose to be with my dying mom instead of the man i was seeing..........and to him that was me not being there for him........loser.........but anyway........hang in there and try to remain her friend until you find out what is going on...........i do think she is avoiding telling you something though...and she should be upfront i think myself
2007-03-15 07:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that she hopes that this someone is you, but she's been hurt and she's protecting herself. Be gentle and patient. The fact that she met you after you told her about your feelings is a good sign. If she were completely freaked then she would have "stood you up."
2007-03-15 08:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you fell, time is wasting this way you know right off the bat if she wants you to start something if not go on your way looking for love but remember she is a friend treat her that way if things go bad
2007-03-15 07:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know your feelings for her. She may not be aware of your feelings for her and didn't want to jump to conclusion. Assumption is the mother of all screw-ups.
2007-03-15 07:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to be with you to, you should kiss her. Walk up to her grab her and kiss her and then see what her response is. She'll either slap you or kiss you back.
2007-03-15 07:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by Tab 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She must have had a bad experience previously....
Be open ask her??
2007-03-15 07:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by rahulsins1982 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋