im 14 and love children and cant wait till i have one of my own the only thing that is stoping me is my age i would love to be a mum is this stupied??
2007-03-15 00:16:27 · 9 answers · asked by ♥Suductive-bayb♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Not at all. Women are almost told to become career people (classic job in an office type thing), I think todays society is falling to bits mainly because there's not enough stay-at-home mums who RAISE their kids (too many people are leaving it for others to do and kids don't know their boundaries and where they stand anymore).
FOR GOD'S SAKE WAIT though!!!!! You're WAY WAY too young and don't jump into anything. There's plenty of time. The last thing a child needs is an immature Mum (I know, I know - ALL teenagers think they're mature enough for anything - but the truth is they're not, when you're old enough you'll look back and agree - believe me). Children need a Mum who understands the need to be a MUM and not a FRIEND to their child. Wisdom comes with age. So wait, and good luck. Study towards something still. Don't leave yourself with motherhood as the ONLY option. But maybe choose something that'll not interfere with Motherhood - like teaching primary/child care. School hours will allow you to work the same hours your kids away from home (when they're a little older), and if you take a break for a few years whilst they're really little, then it's a matter of taking a refresher course and getting back into it - if you want. Unless your husband's income (statistics prove that children generally have an advantage is they have TWO parents - a MUM & a DAD) allows for you to be a stay-at-home mum, then seriously consider this kind of career.
2007-03-15 00:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by pope_penka_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad that your age is stopping you-this means that you have some good sense! It is impossible for a girl your age to be a great mom because you are not grown yourself! Young women learn and grow so much even into their twenties! If you want to be a good mom then you will spend your teenage years learning as much as you can in school, and learning about life. Then you will be a fantastic roll model and teacher for your little ones! Also, if you wait until you have an education, and a good job, (and even a husband to help you) then you will be able to provide your children with the things that help make parenting fun- like cute clothes, and outings. No 14 year old has the money to pay for a child's needs! Remember, a baby is for LIFE! You will have a child forever-not just when they are little. Maybe you could start babysitting so you could begin enjoying kids now.
2007-03-15 00:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteDove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a lovely thing to want to be a mother. Since you are 14 (as is my son), you are in a position that you do not know what you do not know. And you don't know so much. That's okay, you're not supposed to, you're 14.
The next 10 years or so of your life, you should be focusing on developing yourself so that you have something to offer society, a man to marry, and your children.
Since more than 10 hours a week of separation from mommy is devastating to an infant and toddler, you must wait until you are in a place where you can provide real mothering, rather than substitute mothering, to your child.
Volunteer with kids. There is a desperate need.
BTW, are your parents together? A very typical reason young girls want babies is because they don't get good love at home and want to create someone to love (them.)
2007-03-15 01:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not stupid to want to start a family, but you need to be a lot older. You have to learn to live in the world and that takes leaving home and surviving on your own. I'm 27 and had my first baby 7 weeks ago. I still think I'm too young to have a child. I've travelled round the world, lived on my own and had to struggle with some things. I'm very settled with my partner and would say I'm a very strong and independent person, but this has been the hardest time of my life. It took me three hours to get a shower and dry my hair yesterday cos my son needed attention. I had a natural birth but my body is still recovering. I'm not trying to put you off having kids but the romance and the reality of it are completely different. It is worth every second but I have loved my life and if I have any regrets it's that I missed a few countries I wanted to visit. Live your life first then consider kids. Good luck
2007-03-15 00:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by sprouticus79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not so much stupid as naive. It is very hard. I was 22 when i had my first child and even at that age i think i missed a bit of my youth. None of my friends had kids so they were out and about having fun............i also lost alot of friends because i just couldn't socialize as much as them so we eventually just lost contact.
It is a full time job and it doesn't let up...........they always need something. Gone are the sleep ins and the ability to just duck up the shops.
Don't get me wrong.....I wouldn't change my boys for the world and there are many good times...............but don't do it so young. Enjoy your life abit more before you do it. It is not all little cute sleeping babies.........it is shitty nappies, temper tantrums, broken sleep, early mornings, food, food and more food............the word "Mum" has become my most feared word..........it means they want/ need me to do something.
Just wait awhile.........see if you can spend some time with someone who has a baby so you can see 24 hours exactly what is involved.
2007-03-15 00:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by starwiz76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you can't spell, and second of all YES IT IS STUPID!!! Don't become a mother that young. Wait until you are older and married and can handle the responsibility of having a child.
Babysit all you can for now to get your "baby" fix. Seriously....I loved kids too at your age and that is what I did. I babysat all the time, and played with them while their mom's cleaned and made dinner....it got my fix and was still able to be a kid myself.
2007-03-15 00:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i became an aunty at age 9, so i loved kids, im now 32 and have 4, my eldest is 10 and i just had a baby and my daughter says she cant wait to have one too,shes gonna have to wait or i will strangle her if she does it before shes married,get a puppy or something, i had pets galore, that helped me to look after something besides having a baby, just wait a while longer, take care
2007-03-15 00:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by ROCKMUM LOVES BOWIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. Can you provide for a baby on your own? Try babysitting until you are an adult.
2007-03-15 00:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by DOT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having babies and raising them is a full time lifelong job. it takes a lot of your energy and time. so i would suggest you finish studying and try to ahieve your career goals first before you start your family
2007-03-15 00:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by babybluebog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋