2007-03-15 00:15:41 · 38 answers · asked by kellermaleintx2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
omggg..nooooo I have a friend and her husband has this fetish wanting to see her with another man and it has truly hurt her so bad..so if it hurts the other person what good could come out of it..I hope this helps with any decision making because it will haunt you forever if you make the wrong choice
2007-03-15 00:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by sonialynnl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand you question, but I am not sure why you are asking it. If you are asking for permission, you do not need it from anyone here. If you are asking because of a moral dilemma, then by asking the question, you have decided on what your course of action will be. If you are asking out of simple curiosity, then the answer is going to be either "yes" or "no" from the wise counselors on Yahoo Answers as everyone's opinions will be dutiful noted.
In other words, I am not sure that you will receive the answer that you seek and at the end of the day will be in the same place you were before asking such an open ended question as this. Your question implies that the husband has all of the control here and that the wife is just someone to be "shared" as if she were a toy.
A better question might be, "Should husbands support their wives in all of their wants and desires and can choose to be with other men if that is what she wants to do?
Good luck
2007-03-15 00:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by JohnnyQuest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An anthropologist can tell you that there are cultures where this is a common practice - less so nowadays when there's so many self-righteous Christian missionaries preaching against it. Those were and are societies considered somewhat primitive...
In the modern western world, it simply creates too many serious issues between couples to be a common occurrence. There are some couples that have done it and their relationship has not suffered significantly, but that' is indeed very rare. The question is, if you're gonna screw around, why get married in the first place?
2007-03-15 02:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the wife want shared? Does she -want- to have a fling with the other man and her husband? Since I've encountered this exact situation in a relationship before I'll answer this honestly. My ex wife had a fantasy of having two men at one time. While I was not entirely gung-ho about this idea I agreed to it. Apparently according to her this is also not an uncommon fantasy among women. Now if that's accurate or not I don't know. It's just something she and a couple other female friends told me. Since this was her idea and something she wanted I figure seeing as how she wanted it, it was fine. It didn't effect our relationship. The man she wanted also happened to be my best friend and someone I trust implicitly. We discussed it and were fine with it so we did. So in that case, in that context, yes. I think it was okay. It's her body and she got to decide who, what, where, when, why, and how. I didn't pressure or force her and I dont regret my decision. She wanted it, she got it, she didn't feel bad or dirty about it and it never effected our relationship sooo why be upset? Now. Do I think it is alright for a man to pressure or push his wife into being shared? NO. I don't think it's okay for a man or a woman to pressure or force their significant other into being shared. It is their body and they should get to make that decision not be pressured/forced/guilted into it.
Jazz
2007-03-15 00:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's fine if you are looking to get out of your marriage.
I knew a guy once who did this...and his wife did not want to, but she went along with it because she wanted to please him.
What ended up happening is she fell for the other guy and ended up divorcing him...Ha, what goes around comes around. A husband should never ask this of a woman. There are other things much more interesting and intimate that a husband can ask of a wife that only involves the two of them.
2007-03-15 00:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! A marriage is based on the two of you,if either of u feel like sharing with another person u should not be married in the first place. But hey that's just my view.
2007-03-15 00:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no of course not...god made marriage for one man and one woman and i believe when one or the other cheats on their spouse to my way of feeling there is nothing left and nothing sacred about the marriage..i could never trust my spouse again and i would not let it happen for any reason....but then i am not married but this is exactly one of the reasons i am not.........you are not special to him even if he says it was just a thing or fling...why wasn't he thinking of his wife or her husband when they were doing this...
2007-03-15 00:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be wrong, but I believe Escimo's do so to treat their guests (they do not receive many guests). Then there are swinger clubs, parties where keys are thrown in, etc. If both gets a kick out of it, so be it - but it remains immoral and wrong.
2007-03-15 00:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by Peter V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe they should, but I say to each there own, if the wives don't mind, who am I to judge.
2007-03-15 00:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you asking this question? It is between you and your wife. If you want and your wife agree it then thee should not any problem. But remember that marring dose not mean that you bought the soul of your wife.
2007-03-15 01:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by dibesic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋