2007-03-15 00:04:00 · 14 answers · asked by glory y 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
In relationships, there is no need to plead...
your true emotions and feelings for your loved one, will do it all...
You just need to give her/him some time... u can't give up so soon... let her/him calm... Try to talk to him/her... sooner or later he/she will listen to u... all u need is a little patience...
discussion will solve it all... just don't let urself fall apart... stay strong... if u r wrong... then don't feel embarass to apologise, as many time as u can... only if u r wrong.... if u r not... then don't make other person feel guilty about it... he/she will understand themselves...
don't worry.. everything will b fine... if after all this he/she doesn't need to continue the relationship, then its time to move on...
2007-03-15 05:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sushma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I'm angry at my partner I want to be left alone. My anger clouds my judgment and I tend to get stuck on things that really doesn't matter. Giving me time to sort things out when I'm alone and giving me time to calm down is the best thing to do since things blow out of proportion otherwise.
Constantly contacting me and trying to "force" me into talking and sorting things out when I'm not ready for it tends to make things even worse. Demanding that I forgive before I have made my mind up about how I really feel, sans anger, will make me even more angry and even more eager to be left alone.
Looking at myself I'd say give your loved one some space so that he/she can sort things out. If you feel the need to communicate then write rather than call or look the person up. The written word has two advantages,
1) It is much more clear and you can go back and read it later on. A heated conversation is far from clear and you can't go back and get a "black on white" description of it later on. (Chat do not count as written I'm talking about proper letters.)
2) It can be saved for later if "now" isn't a good time.
Personally I'm the one seeking contact when I have sorted out how I feel. If your loved one isn't like me then wait for a while and then seek contact in a setting that is as neutral as possible. Anger is a strong feeling and most of us don't want to go there, or be reminded of it. Sometimes people avoid seeking contact because they are afraid of the anger raising up again.
In the end you can't "force" anyone to talk to you or forgive you if they don't want to. You can't "make" them change their mind and you have to accept that they have a right to an opinion just as you do.
2007-03-15 07:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by --- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such a character is not going to make you happy if you continue the relationship. Better accept the reality and ignore the person. Atleast you will have peace of mind and get a better relationship with someone who would understand, accept you as a 'person' and make you happy. Try this strategy sincerely and you will understand the hard truth of life. All the Best in life.
2007-03-15 12:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by Marks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them some time and space to cool down and evaluate how they feel. Pleading will only make matters worse. If you really love this person put their needs before your own.
2007-03-15 07:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by Grianagh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pleading will not help at all...show your love...and the true feeling which exists within you...moreover it also depends on the reason why she is angry on you or what ked to this kind of situation...try to find a solution to that problem...
2007-03-15 07:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by blackberry 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just step back nd wait if there is anything left to comeback to you he or she will come back to you or else after sometime accept as its over and move on.
2007-03-15 07:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by Spartan Total Warrior 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait patiently, without any emotion.Be loving as you were.In the mean time all will be well.TIME HAS THAT CAPACITY TO MAKE YOU COME TOGETHER AGAIN.BE TRUE TO FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE.
2007-03-15 08:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Radhakrishna( prrkrishna) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be quite ,be their without saying any thing,
u r calmness ,no tension ,no explanations,
will bring love to u .Try this ,it will Help u.
2007-03-15 07:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by dulla99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
actually it means he / she must have used you
& no longer want you in hhis life as love is actually forgiving our mate & when he dosent want to meet u means he is a cheater
2007-03-15 08:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by reshu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop obsessing on them and go on with your life?
Love and blessings Don
2007-03-15 08:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋