what is the best way to distinguish between love and sex?

Answer 1

Humans love that which give them pleasure or meet their needs in some way. Sex is way high on the list of pleasures and needs therefore sexually attractive people tend to be loved more than unattractive people. It's not fair but it's a fact of life. When the attractive person gets old and fat and becomes unattractive that person is loved less although he or she may be loved for different reasons.

Bottom line: love is always selfish. Love is always conditional. It's not romantic to say so but the truth is that nobody loves you for who you are. If you're loved it's for how you please or meet the needs of others.

Answer 2

Well love and sex are both actions. Most people think that love is an emotion or feeling when in fact is is the things you do to show love. Sex is an action performed to procreate and can be a form of showing love which is why there are terms for sexual activity. Like "making love" and "do'n the hokey pokey". Most of the time sex is done as an act of love for another. Other times it's an act of pure enjoyment and indulgence. Or, do I have it backwards? Anyway, most of the time the word love is used out of its meaning. The english language does not do it justice. There are different levels of love. The I would die for you love and the I would go to the depths for you love. There are many more but I'm sure you get the point. Sex is just an act with or without love.

Answer 3

A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 4

I think time is what tells you if it was just sex or if you admire the person for what she is and love her because of something else other than physical attraction. The first impact is normally physical, but with time you can recognize if the physical leads to the spiritual, to a communion of heart and mind with the other (that is why it is a good idea not to act on the sexual drive immediately).

Answer 5

The best way?

1. Through feeling
love resides above the navel in feeling
sex resides below the navel in feeling

2. Action/motivation
love endures difficulties
sex moves away from difficulties

3. Time
Love is constant - is always present in many forms
Sex fluctuates - comes and goes

Answer 6

Love is a huge enormous invisible bubble...that grows and grows....and it is always around you.....with the people that you have it with...,where ever you go,and whomever you meet up with....etc...

Sex, is a "cosmic" connection directly to the persons' you may come in full contact with....a powerful mindblowing..bodyblowing ecstacy mental, physical trip(the trips that are good...not the negative ones) that send you out of your body into the astral universe..and beyond!

Answer 7

Good question! Am intrigued to hear the answers as have confused these more than once.
I asked my mother once when i was very young how you knew when you were in love, and she said 'when you look in to your future and can't imagine them not there'. Kind of defines love (not se*) so maybe that's one way?

Answer 8

If he/she gets up and goes home right afterward, it's sex. If he/she stays with you and can't seem to get enough of you even after the act, it's love. Hope this helps!!

Answer 9

Love is emotional, sex is physical. 'Making love' is physical AND emotional.