What makes you honestly feel so terrible inside?

Question

What literally pains you....so badly that you usually cry or have to hide from others to "deal" with whatever it is?
what do you do to "fix" the problem, for yourself, and does it work? and why?

This question to be a little MORe specific....is asking about anything..you wish to talk about here....it isn't about one thing...it can be literally anything..okay?!

There are some "people" issues for me...people whom I loved and cared about...who I just couldn't change...no matter what..and or I loved them..but they didn't feel that same way! That hurts very bad, for me...but, that is what I guess is part of the "learning processes" for me....I hope that they know somehow, that I will always , always no matter what...love them...it's so painful, I don't like talking about it...even aloud..or thinking about these people either...it pains me greatly....much like a bleeding wound!

Answer 1

There are a few things actually. My brother was killed on my birthday, and one brother blamed me for it. When I get too focused on this, I can cry and be "down" for hours. Sometimes I will visit the cemetery and cry endlessly. I also often get high, cut myself, and/or drink to get through my feelings. Sometimes I will do the 3 above things, as well as binge eat everything I can. Sometimes I call one of my living brothers, just to see how things are going, but this usually makes me hurt worse.

In relation to the death, besides my bro blaming me, it hurts when I remember the look on my Dad's face and the red eyes with tears that wanted to come out that he had as him and the other guys carried the coffin to the gravesite.

I'm trying hard to fight tears now as I type this. I have not cut in quite awhile and am trying really hard not to - this kind of thinking doesn't help . I am already drinking, so maybe I'll just make my drink stronger.

To 'fix' the problem, I do the above - the biggest thing is to try to refocus the mind. If I were smarter at the time, I might write down everything good I remember about my brother, or the good times, or challenge the bullshit idea that I actually played a role in his death, as suggested by the living brother. In all honesty, I know that the living brother, himself, just felt guilty and confused and wanted to share blame.

So my coping ways 'work,' but they are not positive - they do help me refocus and put the thought away for a little while.

Answer 2

I have a good answer to this. What makes me feel terrible inside is seeing so many people in this country so completely concerned with what makes them feel terrible inside. I'll give you a quick example: girls just like you spend 12 billion dollars a year on perfume and cosmetics in the US. With that kind of money we could have erradicated tuberculosis and malaria in the whole continent of Africa. Instead we sit around wondering what makes us feel so terrible inside. What makes us feel so terrible inside is that on the average we have absolutely no compulsion to sacrifice anything for the common good, we live for our own ascendance over those around us, and nothing besides. Do we all really need to drive a BMW? No, buy a Honda, and take the other ten thousand down to a homeless shelter and pass it out. I guarantee you you'll stop feeling terrible about yourself. I know, I've done it.

Answer 3

If you feel bad because someone did not love you back, you don`t know what love is.
Something which also happens is that emotion comes bubbling up, I don`t even know if it feels good or bad, I search my mind for a clue, and since I am a negative type the clue is normally negative, and then the emotion feels bad. If I am in the middle of a very positive experience, then it would be obvious that the emotion is positive and I then feel good. Absolutely deductive. Re-focusing is the better action.

Answer 4

I'm male. I know its typical to hear this, but i do not cry. I think the last time i cried was when my dad died 13 years ago. I deal with my problems by talking about them, or talking to the person i am have problems with. There are not a lot of things that make me feel terrible inside.because... If they are things i can control i know i can fix them. If they are things that are out of my control i know i cant fix them, so that brings me comfort in itself.

Answer 5

For me, the thing that pains me sometimes is regret for cheating on my partner. Sometimes it hurts so much I want to die. I don't know how I deal with it, I guess I just put it to that back of my head. He has forgiven me, but I can't seem to forgive myself.
Other times, I feel really anxious inside, and the way I deal with that is to list the good things I am doing in my life and compare it with what I was doing a few years ago and how much better I am doing now. Dunno if this is what you want, but your question isn't exactly specific.

Answer 6

When I feel that I am a bad person... in any sense... If I feel somebody in my family got hurt because of me (emotionally) I really feel depressed...

How I deal with it.... Well I just cry and then fall sleep... actually it is that simple.... and well it works, I wake up some hours later all right... I think it really has a logical explanation.... but I don't know yet which one that is.. but crying as much as I can and then falling sleep helps me a lot..
Crying helps get everything out.... and eventually I get bored... I finaly go to sleep to wake up the next day like new....

Answer 7

my half sister of 33years only a few years ago find out that my dad isnt hers.healways and still to do this day treats her better than me.it isnt as if other family members do not see the all feel the need to point the things he does out only to me,of course.my sister is an alcoholic and is always blaming my mom for lying to her all these years.she dont mind asking my dad to fix her car though.she is constantly crying to me and saying she needs to know.my feeling is suck it up you have a wonderful man that has acted as your dad since the day you were born knowing she was not his child.i feel as if i were cheated out of all my dad can be so she could have a father.i feel alot of resentment but i choke it down and put in a piece of my gut.i fear one day i will bubbleover.i apologize if this isn't exactly the answer you were looking for.

Answer 8

I feel really bad when I remember my mom...She died 8 years ago because of cancer, I sometimes dream about her and I simply wish to remain there, in my dream, forever...but I cannot do that...Dealing with my mom's death took me about 3 years, considering I was only 20 when she died...but I healed as time went by... the pain of one's heart heals very hard...

Answer 9

I don't tell anyone what my pain is, I don't feel compelled to blurt it out for the world to hear.

Mostly, I lose myself in my journalism, distracting myself long enough that I can forget about it for some time.

Answer 10

when i see a dog that is tied up in someones backyard and NEVER gets any attention or gets no walking or play time.

we treat our dog like a family member. he goes everywhere with us. but since i adopted him from the pound, he could've not been so lucky and been a tied up dog. what a waste.

there is nothing you can do for the tied up dog. i guess you could sneak in and set him free.

people that do that to a dog should be tied in the backyard for a while and get very little to eat.