Considering I do love my girlfriend and I do not want to loose her, but still I am enjoying to be with guys also.
2007-03-14 22:50:54 · 16 answers · asked by xandik_abesamis 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your cheating on her and it's wrong. You know yourself your doing the wrong thing so you need to decide on what you want, whether it's experimenting with blokes or her cause it's not fair to betray her trust. But I would probably not tell her if you want it to work, she will never trust you again and will probably develop some really low self esteem. Think about her feelings with thiS. I've been cheated on and looking back I would prefer not to have found out cause the hurt doesn't go away, neaither does the thought that whenever your partner leaves they are going to be cheating on you. It ***** with your head. You know what the right thing is, just have the balls to do it. Good Luck
2007-03-14 23:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lou 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You owe it to her to know the truth. No matter what happens, you have cheated on her. You are probably dealing with this yourself, but you need to let her go. You need to find someone that you will want to be with the rest of your life and that you would not cheat on. The same is for her. She needs someone that would not cheat on her. You guys can remain friends, if she wants to, but you had the affair. You need to accept the consequences whatever they may be.
You can then move on to finding someone. Or for that fact being single you can play the field without guilt.
2007-03-15 05:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, it might be a bit late seeing you already let the horses out of the barn. I fear to late now to close the gate.
Maybe if told her your feeling before hand she could have worked with you on this feeling or desire?
Sorry your all on your own here... Good luck
Be prepared and like the Maytag repair man once said,"It's lonely being at the top."
And you have topped it but good!
2007-03-15 06:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, first of all, I hope you are having safe sex with both. You may just have to come and tell her directly. If she finds out from someone else you can be sure she will leave you. It is best if she hears it from you.
2007-03-15 05:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TALK to her. Thats the best thing. If she is lesbian all the way she may not understand, but if you tell her it will be better than hiding it from her and her just some how finding out.
2007-03-15 06:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a quiet corner in a bar or similar, be selective,
& say,
"Darling, I'm a lifter of other gentlemen's shirts"
I'm sure she won't mind a bit..
:)
2007-03-15 09:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by viragotriker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Treat her in a manner how you would want to be treated. Be honest, but gentle. Maybe she will be interested in expanding her own sexual preferences?
2007-03-15 05:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its not fair not to tell her! you need to be a ma nan be honest. you never know she may like it! i doubt it but she might some girls might love the thought of two guys lol.
2007-03-15 05:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are young,
and you fess up that you like guys too,
that's being fair to the lady.
however do not marry her,
until the sexual identity problem has been resolved.
good luck!
2007-03-15 05:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how will you tell the guy with whom you have an affair that you have an affair with a dog?
2007-03-15 06:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋