Does it really matter how many people you have been with? If they love you I would think not. Is this question a form of manipulation? Will an any answer be correct?
I personally think this type of questions is not of concern to anyone but me. However one needs to be aware of any STD's as well as if their partner practices safe sex. Asking how many is not going to help you in the long run, there are too many chances it will come back to bit you in the a**. Am I wrong? Knowledge is power, but what are you going to do with it? I wanna know.
2007-03-14 21:48:25 · 12 answers · asked by gr8teful420 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i don't think you should ask how many partners they have had but it should be alright to ask if they always practice safe sex or if they have ever had test for any std's
2007-03-14 21:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by james s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This kind of knowledge to me is not power. It's not OK to ask,
who they were with and how many.
But is OK for you both to take STD test, if going to have a term spend relationship. Use protection always if casual intercourse. But no if asking a person these many questions without this relationship going anywhere just yet, would cause them to think or just not think it is worth it.
Now if this is a long term goal on both sides then all means ask certain questions. If they truly want the same as you then they would want no more and no less the same as you. And would or should have the same concerns.
Just my opinion, good luck...
2007-03-14 22:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can be with one individual and still contract an STD. At that point, does it really matter how many partners the other person has been with? Personally, I don't think it really matters. What purpose will it serve? If you are truly concerned with STDs, then both of you should get tested before you take your relationship any further. Actually, you should get tested anyway. If you both get the all clear, then proceed with a healthy and safe relationship.
2007-03-14 21:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by feefee2u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question and answer. Suppose it's up to the each individual of the "relationship" . Communication without prejudice is a step closer to understanding of the other party. the establishment of values in a Homo relationship is important. What if both parties have a mutual purpose with the relationship. Pending what each party want to get out of that newly established relationship. Then it might vary, pending time or duration. Longerm, shortterm of quickie?
2007-03-14 22:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by openguyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are very smart. no a number is not going to tell you if they have an std. I've known my husband a year now and never once has he asked me how many people I have been with. he loves me and he says it doesn't matter. he was a virgin too when i married him so he respects me alot. I think its better not knowing, all its going to do is make you dwell on that and feel hurt even though you weren't with them at the time
2007-03-14 21:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by princess1226 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed women don't ask men that question but men ask women an awful lot. Could that possibly have something to do w/ a double standard? Only men can be promiscuous but women still are supposed to be virginal. I don't care how many as long as I don't get some disease. His past relationships have nothing to do w/ our relationship.
2007-03-14 21:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ESSENTIAL to ask a potential lover how many sexual partners they've had. Whether to believe their number or not is a different matter entirely. Unfortunately.
2007-03-14 22:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok to ask a potential lover questions.
ask them to question you will help with the process.
you don't need a life history.
just the facts where both of you are comfortable.
2007-03-14 22:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a more appropriate question would be: Have you practiced safe sex in the past?
2007-03-14 22:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would ask how many partners have they had unprotected sexual practices with, and when they were last tested.
2007-03-14 21:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋