My wife and I are having problems together, its ruinning our marriage having my mother in-law with us, she has taken care of the kids for 2 years, but enough is enough. Ive asked my wife many times to send her back to her country where she has her daughter and son there, but my wife says she wants her mother with us and cant ask her to leave.. Its causing loads of problems for our marriage.
Look forward to hearing your comments and advise.
2007-03-14 21:35:41 · 10 answers · asked by goochmink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You diddnt mention the types of problems you are having.
My inlaws have lived with me for the past 5 years and they are wonderful.
Maybe your wife and you can go to counseling to try and come up with a game plan. your mother in law was good enough to help take care of your children..Are you sure that your mother in law is the cause of your marital problems? Step back and have a look, there may be more to it. As for sending her back to her country..what a shame for the grandchildren to not be around their grandma.
If you are sure it is the mother in law causing problems like undermining you,getting between talks with you and your wife etc. Maybe you should either write her a letter or sit down and talk to her.
your in a tough situation...remember this also is hard on your wife and kids as well.
2007-03-14 21:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation and feel with you. Coming to some practical suggestions, it is good that you appreciate how she took care of your kids. Another factor is that your wife wants her mother to be with you all. Now, you need to come to some concrete line of action. Can you take some quiet time and see what is it that creates problems between your wife and you? Is it the mother in-law or is it lack of quality time that you both are not able to give to each other? Can you fix on the advantages of having a mother in-law who is taking care of your kids? Can you begin to count her as an added blessing to your family?
Talk to your wife and try to create opportunities that will boost your married life. The success of marriage depends on husband's and wife's ability to give and receive. Family is built on love, caring and sacrifice. You can change the situation for you are capable, understanding and caring. Trust yourself.
2007-03-14 21:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Tere - educator & professor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps whatever problems your mother-in-law is causing, you can somehow compromise. Get her to stop whatever she is doing that bothers you/causes issues. Or maybe your wife and you can put mother-in-law in a tiny studio apartment nearby?
Whatever the case, it seems your wife is being rather selfish, and I am sorry you have to deal with this!
2007-03-14 21:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife loves her Mother and I am sure that it is a convenience having her watch the children. But she needs to focus on HER family, especially since it obviously upsets you. She married you. Tell her you married her, not her family.
Since you stated there is another sister and brother, suggest
mother- in- law rotate, it is their turn now.
2007-03-14 21:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, when you consider which you mentioned significant, and being a determine, i might in basic terms prefer to be stored in touch with, when you consider which you would be some distance away. Write or digital mail, and deliver photos, and consistently attempt to get alongside. i comprehend that doesn't sound like a modern, even in spite of the shown fact that that's an prolonged term one. additionally, you ought to devise an anniversary party for them, whilst the time rolls around, or some thing like that. heavily, in spite of the shown fact that, i might in basic terms be a competent spouse/daughter-in-regulation, and be glad about such stable inlaws.
2016-10-02 03:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by marolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her an apartment near you, and her.
Or tell mother in law OUT RIGHT that her presents is causing fiction in your marriage, and she needs to make other arrangements on living space.
Remember its your MARRIAGE TOO, you have just as many rights in it as your wife and make sure she understands that!
2007-03-14 22:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to talk it over with your wife again. Tell her your thoughts and listen to hers too. Learn to compromise with each other. Don't get upset or anything like that if she says something you don't like. Maybe she has a point there. So compromise, compromise and compromise. Good luck.
2007-03-14 21:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u r unreasonable. U mother in law does not appear to be interfering in ur affairs.
2007-03-14 22:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your wife, it's me or your mother.
2007-03-14 21:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Guy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that you should talk to her one more time and tell her that if she doesn't tell her then you will...
2007-03-14 21:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by sexy princess lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋