My boyfriend is Muslim and I am non-Muslim.We love each other.We would like to get married and live together.But his parents have arranged a marriage for him in Bangladesh.He lives in the UK and I am European but living in the UK as well.I am studying.
Do you have any experience with this situation?I don't know what to do.If he gets married it will kill me.I love him a lot.I can't emagine my life without him.
He doesn't like his family but is worrying how far they can go.
Is it possible to change the name and the DOB?
Thank you for all your answers.
2007-03-14 21:21:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well vivi, he can say no to their plans for his future but sometimes, parents would go as far as not speaking to their children, and/or refusing them money especially heritage, they can nag and be persistent about it...and sometimes their disapointment takes its time and eventually fades, and some are understanding and just want their sons or daughters to be happy.
how he handles the situation could have positive or negative consequences, he can persuade them in a nice way, and if you do get to meet them one day, that will help too, i am sure. whatever your religious beliefs (or your boyfriend's) try reassuring them, like you won't be a threat, you won't intervene with traditions, etc, when they'll see how much you love him...how could they refuse :) good luck
2007-03-15 04:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sahar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst they can do is never speak to him again, and give him no money from now on. He has to decide if being with you is worth cutting off all family contact, it is a hard decision, be prepared for him deciding either way.
I don't understand what you mean about changing the name and DOB?
2007-03-15 05:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say where he is from but it is unlikely that, if he is over 18, his parents have any legal right to force him to marry. However, they may disown him if he doesn't obey their wishes and I can't see him accepting this since it would mean he would never see his family again and he would also be disinherited.
By the way, it will not kill you if he marries someone else. It will be painful but not fatal.
2007-03-14 21:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to say "when in Rome" but, we in the United States don't live in Rome, thank goodness. We have a democracy here, that gives us the option of saying "no" politely but, firmly.
Your in a fix over there but remember, you'll have to live under those conditions or worse, through the years as a submissive subject to a person that owns you.
2007-03-14 21:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn about Islam and become a Muslim and they will love you with open arms. And if you like i can give you info about Islam and so many people i know who converted. good luck
2007-03-14 22:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by momof3_angles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless he is financially dependent on them, they cannot do any thing.
2007-03-14 21:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on him!
2007-03-14 21:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋