my m8 thinks about killing her self somtimes?

Question

we are realy gd mates i said to her promise u wont do it she said i cant promise anything i got upset when she told me she said after that sorry for making u upset but i dont know if she still thinking about it , any ideas what i can do

Answer 1

One key step mental health counselors use when working with possibly suicidal clients is getting them to make a suicide contract. It doesn't have to say they won't do it just that they will take certain steps if they are thinking about doing it (such as talking to you or calling a suicide hotline).
Perhaps you can create such a contract with her.

Maybe you can even get her to see a counselor. There should be some that work on sliding scales.

You may want to contact this hotline for more information.
Do not underestimate this issue, it is best to contact someone with experience who can really help:
1-800-784-2433
1-800-273-8255

Answer 2

right now she is giving a cry for help. i don't know what she has been through to bring her down so low, and maybe it's really nothing in other peoples eyes, but she is searching for something to help her hold on. don't let go... try to find some way to help even if it's just listening to her right now... let her know that you are her crutch and she can lean on you... it is a very big job and you have to be a strong person to do this... if you don't think you can then you need to find someone who can. people like this don't get better overnight.... i know i have been there once... it really breaks my heart now to know someone else is feeling that pain... depression is like a cancer, it will and can take your life if you don't fight it, and it hurts really bad... i lived because of God...He saved my life when there was no one else there...

Answer 3

Just always be there for her. Let her know and remind her that she is important to you, and that her friendship means a lot to you.

Unfortunately, people who are depressed and suicidal are unable to think about other things apart from their own suffering and feeling of inadequacy.

This is sometimes referred to as 'tunnel vision'. This goes beyond simply being selfish. They just can not intellectually and physiologically focus on anything else.

This problem/fact makes her unable to 'promise you' anything, as she's so unsure of herself and her feelings.

Try to encourage her to seek help from professionals.

There are a lot of good anti - depressants around (unfortunately, it takes about 6 weeks for them to work) as well as alternative therapies. Encourage her, and even offer to come with her to appointments.

Lastly, impossible as it may sound, try not to get yourself too involved emotionally. Try to support and be there for her without being too attached emotionally as this would also be very draining for you.

Good Luck. I think your friend is really lucky to have you.

Answer 4

Its a cry for help, she obviously isnt prepared to do it. Most people who do, dont go announcing it to one and all, they just do it. If you want to help then take her to the doctors and go in with her. Show her you care, she may not want her parents to know how she feels but she sounds like she may be deppressed.

Answer 5

what sort of problems has she got that she thinks this way if you are still at school talk to a teacher about this

Answer 6

Yes...tell her to visit your nearest hospital & visit the terminally ill to get a grip on reality & see people & family's who are REALLY in an awful situation!!

Once she perks up then tell her to grow up & join the rest of us in this world & not be a part of the "stop the world I wan't to get off" posse!

Answer 7

you need to try and point her in the direction of the gp, it could be depression, and she can get help

Answer 8

Please get someone to stop this life is beautiful and please do something to stop this even if you have to get all involved do the right thing please do it now