The are okay with her doing this...
2007-03-14 21:12:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Gatorbait, my wife and I did it. Years ago when we were planning a big wedding, my mother was giving me all kinds of crap about what we wanted, her mother was doing the same thing. We got tired of hearing about it, got a marriage liscense, called up a few of our closest friends and had a small private ceremony in a church with only 4-5 people there.
BTW, we're both from the South (wife went to Auburn and I was an Alabama alum) and even though her mother and mine weren't too happy about it for a while, they eventually got over it.
That being said, while it didn't really matter to me, a lot of the time, most women dream of the big wedding and I felt bad that my wife didn't get that. She agrees what we did was best but in a perfect world, she would have liked the big wedding.
Bottom line, you have to do what's best for you and not let what your family will think stand in your way. My advice however, would be to think it through but when you've made up your mind one way or the other, do it.
Good luck.
2007-03-14 23:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what I wanted to do (to shut my religious nut bar parents up) or you know just stay living together without bothering to marry, but my love has convinced me that instead of eloping or claiming common law status we must have a traditional wedding. He thinks eloping and common law status are both selfish and low class. While some families may think of this as a huge annoyance and some couples may think that weddings are about about them (can we say bridezilla?), it's not how our families are. My parents are extremely religious and his family actually likes eachother (very strange I know) and having this silly little party and ritual is a gift to them since it really does have meaning to them (I know, I thought it was weird that weddings actually mean diddly, but eh) except they're paying and we get material gifts for it haha. If it weren't for the families that we come from I don't know why we'd even bother getting married. We live together and are commited to eachother and in my country that's enough to get the same legal benefits of people who bothered to elope or marry. So, when making the decision of whether or not you want to elope, have a wedding or simply live together with the intent of staying together ie. commitment ie. traditional marriage, you should probably consider your families happiness as well as your own. Besides, if you have the wedding, you get gifts, which was definitely one of the deciding factors for me to bother with this ritualistic party because the day and the public vows will mean absolutely nothing to me hahaha!
2007-03-14 21:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is there a need for you to elope? There is nothing beyond discussions &/or communications. Speak with your family members and let them know that the relationship is important to you and that you're take responsibility for your actions. Be patient.
2007-03-14 21:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the bond for the other with whom u wish to elope.
2007-03-14 21:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you getting married has what to do with your family? My dear,the wedding is all about you and eloping sounds sooo romantic!
2007-03-14 21:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heyeeeeeee ! I in no way theory-approximately that before, that sounds extremely exciting. yet my expensive Daddy might go through unnecessarily and that i does not like that. yet after marriage i might luckily run away to a chum's place in basic terms for the heck of it and to tutor my guy a lesson or 2 besides. stable concept, lol.
2016-10-02 03:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by marolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to this Saturday!
And its finally going to work this time!
I had to grow up for this guy, because hurting him meant hurting me, and hurt me ,and him is hurting us!
This is third marriage for me his first and yes I'm older by 7 years.
I'm going to be married to this one for life because I need him and want to be part of his life, and he mine !
So I'm telling my family we eloped and guess what it's for good, live with it!
You should know the first tow marriages were very unhealthy, and should never have taken place.
and both of them were "Traditional Weddings".
2007-03-14 21:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do it if the woman I loved said lets go then I would make it happen. The family would get over it in time and you can always have a ceremony later for them if you really felt pressured.
-NmD!
2007-03-14 21:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love, your family would come to be happy that you saved them going thru the whole wedding nonsense.
Your family must know that you will live your own life.
2007-03-14 21:17:57 · answer #9 · answered by MissDixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm,
I think that's not bad if you are living in US................
But if you are living in small town of North India................then it will spell peril in the lives of couple.............
Here's people are very strongly bound by religious threads............
Any Boy /Girl crossing or marrying outside the norms................are in many cases killed or discarded from the social circles of that family...............
Even Boy or Girl's parent go against them...........
All in all the couple's entire life becomes so tough...................
that they start thinking why they entagled in youthful pleasures
That's the story from a Small Town in india.........
Your Web Guide........................
2007-03-15 00:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋