2007-03-14 20:57:00 · 31 answers · asked by Joe Guy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i wouldn't say it's based on race.think about it just like saying that u can't marry,or mate with this person.because u are this color and you are that color.it just don't make no since.
2007-03-22 02:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Dillon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choosing a mate never comes down to one thing. I guess if we were honest with ourselves, race always plays some part. I didn't think much about race when I was looking for a wife ... but as I reflect now, I think it was there at an unconscious level. I was always attracted to Italian and Jewish females. I went for Italian in the end (smile).
Since choosing a mate is so personal, and is probably the most important thing we do in this world, I'm pretty sure that we do it more out of our instinctual 'stack' than from any rational thinking. I know for myself, once I fall in-love, my reasoning takes a vacation for 17-24 months. I can't think straight.
I think falling in-love is such a purely human experience that questions of race are so far in the background, and such minor obstacles, that they rarely come to the 'light of day'. But, obstacles are definitely part of falling in-love. If race is an obstacle to you right now, and you are wondering if you are in-love, then one of two things will happen. You will either overcome the obstacle for love ... or the obstacle will become irresolvable, and you will fall out of love. I guess this may be the reason you asked the question.
So, follow your heart. Either way you go, its a matter of the heart ... and probably nothing to do with what I consider as racism (believing that one race is really superior to another).
2007-03-23 01:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sultan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find that you get along and have a good time around each other and THEN choose not to hang together because of race then yes that would be racism but if you simply don't want to hang with the other person for other reasons then no that would simply be a choice that wouldn't be race based.
2007-03-15 04:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by macca_79_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, somewhat! If you were raised that way chances are you just steer away from putting yourself in that position. But when it comes down to true love you cannot help who you fall in love with. There will be alot more conflict in your lives in an interracial marriage because of ignorance in the world and some familiy members may not accept it no matter what. But it doesn't mean it should keep you apart if you are meant to be together. When you find someone that you can talk to easily and share everything with and you love them inside and out then you cannot let race be an issue. But I'm sure you discuss all the pro's and con's with eachother and prepare yourself for the obstacles you may or may not encounter and thank God that our times are not quite so old fashioned that kids shouldn't be such a factor as they used to but I would try and talk with some other couples just to find out what you'll be facing. But remember marriage is tough at times no matter what race we are. But isn't the price we have to pay for happiness worth it? If you find a good mate that is all that matters.
2007-03-15 04:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by lilrunaway45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By definition, yes: you are discriminating based on race. But it's not bigotry: bigotry would require that you are being hateful toward the other ethnicities, when in fact you just prefer a certain one for your life partner; probably your own. That's normal, and there's nothing wrong with it: just don't miss the opportunity to be with someone special because they aren't of the race you THOUGHT you preferred. We're all humans.
2007-03-23 00:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Leroy Johnson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With some,I think it is, depending on a person's race or upbringing. Some choose their own race due to religious & cultural beliefs. And others choose because they have been taught that mixing race is a sin. But only those who choose not because of race, choose because of "LOVE".
2007-03-23 00:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by JP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there are alot of problems w/ interracial marriage. when you have kids they get picked on for being mixed. if you marry someone from out of the country there prolly are a lot of cultural issues. and how would feel if you went to a family reunion and you were the only black person there (or any other race.) but if you really don't care about that then it is your choice.
2007-03-22 15:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by Liv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is. But hey you like what you like. The question you should ask yourself is, why do I only like this particular race of a person? Personally I could care less what race marries what race as long as they love each other and are good to their children.
2007-03-22 15:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by kristin747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choosing a mate should be based on love and compatibility.
2007-03-23 03:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by jboyer345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
racism is a negative reference. race is an inherent state of being, racism is a conditioned state of mind. never the two be confused. making an intentional choice regarding companionship is very wise...
feralfem
2007-03-23 03:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by pheralphem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the worst kind of racism!
Your apply culture base on looks not substance!
2007-03-15 04:13:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋