why people dont like me?

Question

i am a 17 yearold girl in iran. i am alone. i dont like myself too. i think i am not asenergetic as my freinds. i like to be like them because world likes such people but actually i dont ;like everything they do . they say i am strict. maybe yes! but i really dont enjoy talking about some fields that they speak . they laugh for anything but i cant. i laugh only when is sth is really laughing for me. i dont talk too much i only talk when it is necassary. but i try to be polite with people kind to children and like the people around . i am kind believe me. i have a heart too. but nobody thinks that i am like this! for example in school students say that i fell like a princess but i know that i am not that nice i am just normal they think i am too mean but i really dont feel like this. but anyway i think i am not normal like other people. maybe i am crazy. do you agree?

Answer 1

Here we go again with the self pity, you need to stop that!!! I know what your problem is and it is simple....nothing impresses you very much because you are so intelligent that your mind works faster and is processing at a different level than most people. Don't let it bother you too much, when you reach college you will find it very different and will have many friends who will relate to you.

Answer 2

Very, very interesting...

I think that you are better than those other girls.

If you are a Muslim, you need to stop that immediately - First!

You see, you don't know this but here, in America, our historians and scientists have disproven Islam and Christianity and Judaism!

It is a great breakthrough.

The Catholic Church has admitted to doctoring the scriptures (Old Testament (which Muslims use), and the New Testament (Christians)!

The church, after Jesus died, wanted to become a world power, so they created the religions of Islam and Christianity, using a bunch of old, old manuscripts.

They created a religion (Christianity) that was almost irresistable! Later, they helped Mohammad to conquer Jerusalem.

Mohammad was supposed to give Jerusalem to the Catholic church who wanted to headquarter there, but Mohammad became too powerful and prideful so he did not comply, and now we have Islam.

But Islam and Christianity and Judaism are gone. Many people have been sad at first, but we now are happier than we were before as we now see that we are truly free from the shackles of any religion!

We now have laws based entirely on reason and we are suprised that people are actually kinder and more giving and loving without God.

So you are special because your job is to research this and carry the information to those in Iran who are still trapped by the slavery of religion!

If you can, you should do searches on:
"Islam disproven"
"Christianity disproven"
"Atheist"
"Atheism"
"Agnostic"
"Christianity is wrong"
"Islam is wrong"

This information may still be censored by your government,I do not know. But I sincerely hope thaat you can be the light to Iran, so that Iranians can also know the freedom and exhiliration of knowing what it feelslike to think for yourself!

Answer 3

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. You have your own unique personality, and that makes you special. Just because you are different from others in some ways does not mean that you are "crazy".

Some people are outgoing, some people like to stay more to themselves. Some people are involved in just about everything and have many opinions, others are more reserved.

If you are polite to others, than that hardly qualifies you as being "mean". So I wouldn't take what those people said about you to heart.

God does not create junk, dearheart. You are special, and I'd like you to remember that.

Answer 4

Oh sweetheart Im sorry you felt that way! I used to be one myself. Growing up, I was uncomfortable with myself, I was a quiet girl, very nice though, harmless, can't laugh much and needless to say I dont make much friends. You know ppl always say just be yourself and ppl will like you for who you are. That is partially true.

You are not crazy definitely. You are still young and searching for your identity. I learnt to loosen up. I learnt to voice out my opinions. I am very much the person I am now. I stopped worrying abt saying the silliest things. I do what I want. Laughter is a very attractive thing. A smile and laughter work wonders. For some reason, I laugh alot now compared to 10 years ago coz I begin to see the light heartedness of things and not take things so seriously.

What you can do is to stop taking yourself and things so seriously. You can learn to improve on your communication skills. Learn to compliment others and make them feel good and learn to create conversation. Ppl love to hang out with ppl who make them feel good. Do it sincerely, without force or overdoing it.

You need to share your life with ppl and not be too reserved. You need to have fun and laugh at silly things. I know you can do it dear. Ya still young, you have so much to learn and do. Life is hard, dont make it harder. When ya not so uptight and you are fun and friendly, you ll see ppl will be attracted to the individual that you are. Best of luck sweetheart! :)

Answer 5

dont be silly, you arent crazy. Everyone likes different things and takes interest in things others dont. Like you mention the fact that your friends laugh about things that you dont like to laugh about. Also is your religion giving you boundaries as to what to like and not like? If so, its completely understandable you feel this way, and your friends will have to get used to the fact that this is how they are. You are you, be proud of it because theres no one in the world the same, and dont let others make you think otherwise.

Answer 6

When people don't like themselves that shows and other people don't like you either. You must learn to love and respect yourself before you can expect others to love and respect you. Don't worry so much about what others say about you, when you do that, you are giving their opinion of you more importance than you give your own opinion of yourself. Learn to laugh at yourself. That will help. If we stop and look closely, we are really funny people and do really funny things. Learn to be light hearted and not take anything to heart. If you don't like what they say, ignore them and find new friends.

Answer 7

I'm 60, I've been like you all my life and it took me many years to realize there is nothing wrong with me, except that I don't go with the crowd.
you can do one of the following - keep doing what you feel is right and ignore the criticism, or pretend to enjoy all the socializing to make people around you feel more comfortable with you.

Answer 8

No I dont think you are crazy. Just young and probably overly sensitive. Cheer up, try smiling more and see if it helps, sometimes people mistake silence as being snooty. Make eye contact when you talk to people. You will be fine.

Answer 9

Your first problems is you said you don't like yourself. If you don't like yourself then no one will like you. Start loving yourself for who you are and then you'll notice the diffrence. People don't want to be around someone who is that negative about themselves. I would try talking more to people so you can get comfortable around people. Good luck.

Answer 10

you have to learn to like yourself in order to get others to like you sweety. you dont have to be like your friends, then you wouldn't be an individual..try to figure out what good qualities you have..you're special in your own way. you are normal, you are a normal 17 yr old girl growing up in this cruel world..don't worry we all go through this. keep your head up..you are not crazy!! ;)