do I sack my maid?

Question

I do keep my place clean, but my Husband throws eggs and mess around. He brought in a maid and now constantly says how wonderful she is and keeps making digs at me. when she came she changed all my furniture around, she keeps my cuboards in a mess, and she keeps talking to my husband in arabic, which I don't yet speak fluently, while we are eating our dinner. If me and my husband are talking, she interupps and he goes off with her to the garden talking and just leaves me there. She is also very giggly around him.
My husband arabic and I english, she complained to him that one day I wanted to eat english food, which is rare as we live in Egypt.
He told me to sack her today so this headache will finish.
I may need her soon as we are trying for a baby, and I have a condition that makes me bedridden for this time. So I need others opinions please.
What do I do, my husband has made me feel insulted, and I feel in competition with another woman, in my own home. does she stay or go?

Answer 1

Sack her In Egypt people have there position in life and when they start to get friendly they will start taking liberties you come home find them watching TV smoking etc instead of working She knows her position in your home and shes tyring to give herself position that she hasn't been given.

Answer 2

As soon as posssible look a repalcement and ask her to leave and dont have your house help at the table when having your meals. Set the boundaries or risk having the second maid come too much into contact with your husband and the same problem coming up. cos if it happens again your husband will accuse you of being a nag and oversuspisious.

All the best. Let her go NOW!!

Answer 3

I would say she goes..but i would also leave him. It is wrong to speak Arabic in front of you. I have felt alot of different people in this world that know how to speak english can do so..It is very hard for others that don't speak it. Sorry I don't know why people marry into other culture as they make it very hard for the white race and can get away with it. But thats the price you pay when you want to marry another culture. there is nothing wrong with it ..if they can treat you with respect and this never happens. I'm not races but I sure don't like what i have seen and heard.

Answer 4

sack the maid !! can't believe she's taking over ur house and trying to get her nasty hands on ur husband, maids clean they dont change ur furniture round like it there home and there's something really strange about he's going off to talk to her in the garden...i would sit down with ur husband n tell him its very disrespectful talking to her in arabic in front of u and letting this ***** tell u what to eat and interupps your conversations with your husband! i think kick her out u can always get sumone who will do as u say! and have a good telling off to ur husband thats so disrespectful how hes treating u!!

Answer 5

sack her and hire an old weighty maid that your husband will find unappealing

you are facing disaster if you keep her
statistically 90% of all men who cheat, cheated most during their partner's pregnancy

so to have the giggly bubbly little girl around while you're getting weaker and less able to compete for attentions and affections.... you're implying consent to extramarital activities by allowing her continued presence

by finding a maid / nanny yourself, you can ensure thet the candidate will have the proper qualifications both in experience and appearance. therefore you can calm your worries, and be sure that your child, marriage, home, and family are in well qualified and caring hands.

either that, or you could tell your husband that he can keep her on if he agrees to hire an english buttler of your choosing...

by the by.... you can interview from your bedside if necessary... or for a few hours a day, maybe you can muster the strength to make it to the parlor for interviewing

Answer 6

Maid is to close to your husband and does not respect that it is your house obviously. Get rid of the maid find a new old unattractive one that can help you with your house and possible new child interview and make it clear when you do your house your way whoever excepts it give them a try. You are not stuck with this lady she is one in a million.

Answer 7

Definitely get rid of her. You should never put yourself through this sort of thing. If you're in competition with your husband, plus she's not a good maid in the first place, it all adds up.

You can hire a new maid when the baby comes - don't worry!

Answer 8

Being that you've chosen to live in a culture that treats women worse than the ho's in a rap video, you should accept your choice. I'm surprised he hasn't made the maid his 2nd wife yet.
And before you start talking divorce, you better read up on the laws in Egypt, ignorance of the law there could cost you your head.

Answer 9

First off tell her to leave when you too are eating it is very disrespeactful for who to interupt you when talking your her employer set some guidelines and rules. Stop letting her walk all over you if you want english food once in awhile if she knows how she is the maid she is paid to do what you tell her.

Answer 10

AHA! the maid wants your husband mostly.

but since he wants you to sack your maid. dont!

i'd rather fire her. and then get another maid that is NOT like the first maid. but you should make her jealous first by ignoring her and not letting your husband know that you are ignoring her for 1 or 2 days. and dont let her get away so easily. dont let her do sneaky things that you dont disagree behing your back like se* with ur husband.