i have a dad who doesnt call me at all...or checks up on me he lives in a different country..he has kids with his wife...and they have kids....i only met him once should i still be angry and erase him as much as i can??? or keep waiting for him to come around..??.its been like this for lke 7 years since i met him....
2007-03-14 19:31:58 · 10 answers · asked by **PrinCess** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sweetie, this is a very hard one to answer. ask yourself a few questions>>How important is this to you...is it easier for you just let go now and if later in life he pops up then handle it then..Do you really need a relationship with a man who has nothing to do with you? I know that in the future your father will regret what he has done and i feel someday he may come back into your life. He is missing out on getting to know his daughter. what would I do?? well, I would just let go..Try not to be angry..try not to let him affect you at all. Just go on with your life and if the day ever happens that he realizes his mistakes and wants to be around you, then handle it when that happens but intill that happens..just go on with your life and be happy..don't let him cause you to have problems in your life. He isn't worth the pain. Or you could write once a year and let him know how you feel abut him not having anything to do with you and make him as miserable as you.. ok the devil took over on that one.. I'm so sorry that your father is hurting you and I know you deserve better. Make youself a good life and show him what he missed!!
2007-03-14 21:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by sash 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my dad and I only talked to each other like once a year. We now communicate via email, but only like once every 2 months.
As for my mom, well... I am grown up and out of the house, but my mom and I never had a good relationship at all. Although I see her now and then because I visit my brother, who is still at home, I doubt she would call me, and I wouldn't call her anyway.
I hope you do not grieve too much over your dad. Try writing a letter and see if he responds. The "dad" I email once every two months is, as I just found out a few months ago, not my real dad. So, I don't even know who my real dad is.
2007-03-14 19:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a crap dad too. It's best to cut your losses and move on. You can't choose your parents and you happened to get a bad dad. He knows where you're at and doesn't contact you. That says alot about him. It's ok if you're angry at him but, don't let it rule your life. Lots of people don't talk to their parents. Sometimes we just get dealt a crappy parent. It's not your fault and you didn't do anything wrong. Your father is the one with issues. He'll come running back to you sooner or later. Most deadbeat dad realize they messed up and try to lamely fix it later in life. Erase him and be done with him. It's his loss.
2007-03-14 20:14:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor kid, your Dad sounds like he's losing out on knowing a fine child. It's sad that his "new" family has taken up all his time. Maybe his new wife doesnt encourage him to make contact. If you want, you could send him a postcard now and then, just to remind him that you exist. Also, send him regular photos just so he cant forget you. One day, when he's old he will be so sorry he overlooked you, and will be too ashamed of himself to contact you, that's why it's up to you.
2007-03-14 19:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, there is no terms of ex-daughter or ex-son. Even though your dad doesn't call or write you, it doesn't mean that he forgets you because your relationship with him will never die. You are his blood relative, so, I suggest you, plz keep waiting for him. I'm sure oneday he will realize that he is still having you as his blood relative. This relationship will never die. God Bless you.
2007-03-14 20:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should give up, try writing to him or calling him casually see how he is doing, maybe he thinks your upset and he jus needs you to break the ice.
Parents could be as scared and confused, try reaching out to him you never know until then.
Good luck
2007-03-14 19:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by none 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep him on the shelf for now, and send him a christmas card every year to remind him that he has another child (you).
2007-03-14 20:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eraze the anger forgive him and pray for him. It will be easier to be at peace. I hope you have a good relation with your mother.All the best
2007-03-14 19:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by rams 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you lost when it came to fathers. Forget the worthless pig and move on with your life.
2007-03-14 19:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
better chance adopting a brother
2007-03-14 20:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by SpecialGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋