My now ex bf broke up with me last year. The thing was when we were together, he showed so much love and admiration. But something happened and another girl who has his child came into the picture. She was a one night stand before we met, I know for sure she had admitted it herself. Anyhow, he was ashamed and I helped him some to terms with having a child. But as he went to spend time w/ his child he developed feelings for the mother and left me to be with her. I was devestated. But whats worst was he lied to me about it and when I found out the truth, he was so cold and hurtful to me. Anyhow, he is no longer with her, I suppose he found out her true colors and what she was all about. But he never really apologized to me, and the more I tried to talk to him, he treated me like he never knew me and he still does. We were together for 2 yrs. He broke up with me last summer. He has told me he does not want me in his life anymore, because I said hurtful things to him. But he did some
2007-03-14 19:19:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
hurtful things to me. Why doesn't he see that?? Even though he was wrong for alot, I still wanted to be friends with him. He has told me we have no reason to speak anymore. At first I thought it was out of anger, but he really means it. I have not heard from him since last November. Even though I know I need to move on, I am still hurt, and alot of whats happened bothers me, where I cant even sleep at night. I feel very alone, and abandoned. I did nothing to him, but defend myself. Now, I feel like I lost my best friend. And it seems to not bother him in the least. Why is this?? Please can someone help me understand. I cry alot.
2007-03-14 19:23:32 · update #1
There is no understanding these kind of people, you are lucky he showed his real colours. Stop explaining your self, you should be happy that you did not wast more years of your life on this loser.
You sound like you have your head on straight, so join a club get into some thing healthy and live because he is
2007-03-14 19:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count your losses. He will not be good for you in the future. I'm sorry you've been hurt by this guy, but you need to let go. His pattern indicates you will only look forward to more emotional pain.
Failed relationships hurt everyone. Move on and do things that are important to you. Start a new hobby, find a new job, take a college course, take a short vacation, paint your living room.
This too shall pass.
2007-03-15 02:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best thing that you could do is to forget about this guy and move on. He seems to blow you off an awful lot and too much drama with the other woman and the kid. Don't be attracted to him cause hes a "bad boy" If thats what you want though at least get one that don't have a kid so there will be less drama. You know? Anyways.. take it easy.
2007-03-15 02:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Adam B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself cool down in every way first.
Things are very complicated from the beginning, don't blame him, he has so much trouble, and what you said to him might hurt him from his point of view, but he seem to be helpless too. Forgive him, and forgive yourself, is the only way. don't blame each other, don't try to figure out who is right and who is wrong. let things pass, don;t let yourself into deep emotion of this, everything will pass, and can start all over again, you might meet different guy, and have different life.
Try to move on, forgive him, forgive yourself, and forgive everything. in this way, god will help you, and help him.
2007-03-15 04:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by Caring Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember time heals all wounds. Most people say what they do not really mean in the heat of the moment. Unfortunately once it's out you can not take it back. All you can do is apologize and move on. If he does not accept then it's on him and not you. Just realize you did you're best.
2007-03-15 02:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on... you can still move on....he sounded worse than pig.... no man around you, you can live alone happily with friends. He just don't know how to cherish you, and you can just look for others that really cherish you and treasure you. This guy you can dump it into rubbish bin, and no one will feel pity on him. Is not that i m ruthless, but you wanted to say nice with him, he still ignores you as you has done somethign wrong... Come on.. he is the one that make that mistake, and he should be the one who say sorry and ask for your forgiveness.....
So , now... life goes on....and you must move on...
Trust me..
Next guy will be better and suitable...
2007-03-15 02:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to an Island off the west coast of Scotland and live there for ten weeks, then come home. Those who have actually done it, know it will work every time.
2007-03-15 02:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Camper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like it would be a happy way to live to me. If he doesn't want you, love yourself enough to find someone who does care. You deserve to be happy like anyone else ! And having him doesn't seem like a happy life if you have to convince him of it. You can't make someone care for you.
Hugs
2007-03-15 02:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will not do you any good ... i mean if really loves you he will be back apologizing to ya ..... if he dont .... you gotta move on with your life... meet another people have fun.....take an advice from me....(LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO LIVE IT TWICE) GooD LucK
2007-03-15 02:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by Hood-Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on he sounds like a pig , there are good people out there that would love to be with you
2007-03-15 02:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by BajaRick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋