See her exhusband always hits on her, I know this from her own statements, and because I've also spyed on her emails and cell phone texts.
No worry, I trust her.
But recently, they have decided to still do last years tax return together, as theywere married legally 6 months of the year, and he has offered her to keep the whole thing (this is at least 1,600 maybe more) for "one more time" but I think I can trust her, and if I tell her 'm worried, she'll know I have been looking at her texts...but that's a lot of money.
And when she said no to sex, he said what about oral, and she said 1,500 for that?
I don't know if she meant, no way mister, or like, for that, no problem...I trust her, I've been with her 4 months, and she seems trustworthy.
Early on, she was still a little flirty with some guys online, but that had been going on before I met her, and she abruptly stopped that, and hadn't been an "online person" before this
It's how we mat...what should I do?
2007-03-14 19:11:53 · 8 answers · asked by steve v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She sounds like she's all about money and cheating. Why are you even still there?
2007-03-14 19:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u truly trusted her u wouldn't be looking what she does wouldn't matter. I don't know, what u should do, but if u say anything that will lead her to the knowledge u have be spying, u will be single. I know alot of people would give a ******** for 1500 bucks. I might even think about it. LOL. Hell, I have got sex out of paying some chicks rent, she had a boyfriend. Nice guys, finish last. I know what ur thinking girls. But, u girls will go for the a$$hole everytime.
2007-03-15 02:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by trust_me74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first entered my current relationship, my gf had broken up with a guy about a month previously.
They had started out as really good friends, and that developed into a sexual relationship, which was hot and heavy. Though they stopped seeing eachother, he continued to send sexual sms' to her, including when I had started dating her. I initially thought that the messages were funny in a way, that he could be so desperate and she agreed.
However I started becoming concerned with the amount that she was getting. Not that he was sending them, but that she was replying, almost giving him permission to continue.
After about 2 weeks he called her one night while we were drinking at her house. She left for 1/2 hour to talk to him. I couldn't take it anymore.
On the spot I told her exactly how I felt. That I appreciate that he was a good friend, but the way that she was responding to his sexual sms' was indicating to me that she was willing to give him a second chance. That this was degrading to me, and that I was becoming jealous and hateful of this person that I don't even know. That I was doubt
She did say the whole "you know I'll always be with you" thing, but I stuck up for myself and told her again. Actions speak louder than words.
She told him that she wants to stop talking to him, because she has something more important now. Our relationship is better for it.
So I know how you feel when this sort of thing happens. You instantly feel jealous when your partner flirts with someone else, but when it repeatedly happens, especially when they have history with this person, it can bring up feelings of self-doubt.
Just tell her how you feel - it's hard, but you shouldn't keep it to yourself.
2007-03-15 02:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by AlanHB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business. If she does it for money, you don't need to know...just leave it alone. Believe me, the situation is stressful enough for her without having to make sure you aren't spying or judging her decision. Honestly, if she does anything sexual with her ex-husband it would only be to get this money...not because she has any emotional ties. Let it go, don't take it personal, this too shall pass.
2007-03-15 02:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by minimickimichelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out man, tust me if she was trustworthy she would would have told you everything that happened and you wouldn't have had to spy on her. So that means you guys have no communication so get out now while you can!
2007-03-15 02:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jacob P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so u r trusting her a lot... then keep maintaining and a faith in her till she believes u the one of her right choice as a life partner....... keep building relationship and develop or bond the relatinship a bit more stronger and if she agrees try to live a good life and have a long journey.........
best of luck.........bye...............
2007-03-15 02:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by bala krishna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, let her get on with it and take 50% of the money for your kind understanding.
2007-03-15 02:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems your trust is going away!! seems you have that right, hang tuff
2007-03-15 02:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by James k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋