Im 2 months pregnant and my fiance left me...He wont even talk to me, I actually think he is complete physco?

Question

I thought about telling Him I lost the baby...so I dont ever have to deal with him...I always have worries though because what if my baby gets mad at me.....Anyways the babies dad is really worthless....Tell me what you think......Plus should I give my baby his last name or mine.....Im not scared to be a single parent....My 7 year old son's dad dont over come around...Its always just been us.

Give me your opinion please...

Answer 1

I went through a similar situation a little while back and i decided to have the baby on my own. Don't bother telling the father anything, since as far as you can tell he doesn't care anyway. I know you don't know the sex of your baby but what i use to tell myself was "a boy can't teach my son how to be a man" and thats what your ex is being a boy. So you'll probably be better off.

Also as far as your baby being angry with you... as long as you raise him/her right they'll thank you not be mad at you. You'll just have to teach them to understand that everyone is allowed to make their own choices in life and their father made his and obviously it was the wrong one because he is going to miss out on what a wonderful kid your child is gonna be.

Oh and as far as the last name the child should have yours seing as how yours is the only one thats going to matter to him/her. Good luck and find strength in yourself. You'll get throught it.

Answer 2

Im so sorry honey, how freaking typical is that for a woman to be preg. and a man to leave her. I wouldn't tell him i lost the baby, if you really are convinced that he's worthless then don't tell him anything; but if you feel you must don't say you lost the baby. Telling him that means you still are trying to get back with him (by making him feel bad for you b/c of "the baby" you are trying to get him back into your life) but he's obviously not worth that, so i would just tell him "look it's going to be me and my son and this baby...we don't want you to come around since you couldn't even handle it when i was preg. so we'll set up some sort of agreement or i'll see you in court." This straightforwardness will either snap him out of it and make him see what an idiot he is or he'll just continue to prove you right about how ignorant he is. I'd give my child my last name but if he/she ever askes about their father don't hesitate to give them the information. if they contact him it'll be up to him to be a good father, it'll only make you look bad if he's nice and you put him down or don't supply the info. So to make a long story short keep it your little family and force the father (with your words and actions) to either be around or step aside. GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

Give the child your last name. If for some reason your fiance becomes an adult again and comes back then go from there, you can always get a name change. In the meantime if you feel that you can raise the baby on your own do it. My mother raised my sister and I by herself and went to college and got a bachelor's degree. Go on with your life and dont look back if your fiance is an adult he will come back. If you feel that you fiance is psycho keep the child away from him. When the child gets older if he/ she has questions explain to him/her the situation and more than likely they will unserstand. Always be upfront and honest with the child and keep communication. Thats what go my sister and I through it.

Answer 4

do you mean "psycho"? You spelt it wrong. I wouldn't tell him that. That is cruel and not fair on your baby and the father. It depends if you want to let the Dad in your babies life as to whether you give your child his lastname or your own. What last name does your 7 year old have? If it's yours then I would give your baby your last name so they share the same last name.

Answer 5

well, I would think that you should give your baby your last name. And as far as telling him that you lost the baby will not help you will only be holding on to your probables and running away from them. Plus if you take him to court you can get him to help you with the baby. You can be strong, face this head on.

Answer 6

You two are not married, so the baby should get your last name. But if he has completely decided he doesn't want to be involved, then have him sign a form saying he is giving up his parental rights.

Answer 7

You are clearly a strong woman, if that guy is no good then forget him, but don't tell him you lost the baby, just ignore him, or tell him that the baby isnt his! lol.
Your child will grow up wanting to know about his/her dad, but if he is no good than just know that you did the right thing for you and your family by leaving him. when your baby gets older he/she will understand.

and give that baby your last name, dad's not going to be the parent you are!

Answer 8

i would give the baby my last name and stay away from the babys father the baby isnt goin to get mad at u if u let it know (you are only doin what is right for u and ur kids and yalls lives) i would not tell him ANYTHING about me or my life and dont tell him u lost the baby b/c that will make it wrost on u and ur kids

Answer 9

You can give the child any last name you want, however, unless you want to put your fiance on the birth certificate then I suggest using yours. Don't lie to him about losing the child, that would just take you down to his level. Are you calling him worthless because he is or because he left you? Did he have reason to? Maybe he is scared. I think you should try talking to him instead of ignoring him. Regardless, he is the father of your child and one way or the other will be in your life.

Answer 10

Give the baby your last name, and the baby's dad is the one that left so what can you do but tell baby his dad was sick and left