Ok so my now boyfriend and i have had a pretty ugly past he gave me such a hard time my freshman year and now we have been together for about half a year we had been pretty great since this last time we decided to try things but just about a week ago he started acting funny he has been ignoring my calls and we dont see eachother but then again he doesnt have a car i tried to break things off because things just seemed to familiar to me but he begged me not to and well i love him so much i decided not too but that was two days ago and all today he has ignored my calls texts and now has his phone off. i dont know what to do my heart hurts and i dont know if i believe what he told me the night i took the ring to house to break things off which was that he has all these problems and feels he has hit rock bottom. he says he needs help but just doesnt know. he said he didnt want to burden me please someone help me out w/ advice or prayer to get us through this.
Thanks!!!
2007-03-14 18:34:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well his mom isnt the nicest person and acuses him being a pothead although i wouldnt blame her because he used to be and his dad is alot like him htey both just block people out, they are hard headed, and dont like asking ANYBODY for help. His car doesnt even start at all, he bombed out on two major tests in 2 of his classes, and well hte past him and his mother have had is something i think he will never be able to let go of. The reason why im so scarred is because when he used to block me out before this last time he would leave me and it feels exactly like those times the pain is so heart wrenching. Thanks again
2007-03-14 18:49:41 · update #1
Well his mom isnt the nicest person and acuses him being a pothead although i wouldnt blame her because he used to be and his dad is alot like him htey both just block people out, they are hard headed, and dont like asking ANYBODY for help. His car doesnt even start at all, he bombed out on two major tests in 2 of his classes, and well hte past him and his mother have had is something i think he will never be able to let go of. The reason why im so scarred is because when he used to block me out before this last time he would leave me and it feels exactly like those times the pain is so heart wrenching. Thanks again
2007-03-14 18:49:46 · update #2
I can only say that you are dealing with some pretty difficult things right now. For you to be in love with someone who has these kinds of problems is sad. Love should be a joy, especially when you're this young. Your boyfriend needs some professional help. He may be blocking everyone out just because he's depressed. Besides loving him, are you prepared to deal with this behavior or issue for the rest of your life? Because, believe me, it doesn't get better without some major help and maturing.
Maybe just stepping back into a friendship would be the healthiest thing for both of you right now. Less stress and some commitment to stick by his side as a friend rather than a relationship.
I'll be praying for you. Please examine your options carefully before you get any deeper into this relationship.
2007-03-14 19:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by minimickimichelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I even got to the end of what you wrote I knew he was acting like this because he's feeling INCREDIBLY depressed...So, now it's up to you...Are you willing and ready to be in a relationship with someone who is incredibly depressed and isolating himself?! Depression is a very selfish emotion and makes it hard to show love for others when you are feeling so down. To be in a relationship with him at this time you would have to be understanding of this. If this is not something you want to deal with at this time and you still care for him, then tell him that you two really need to be friends right now and support him through this rough time. But be honest with yourself and know that when someone is really depressed it is almost impossible to give love to someone else...
2007-03-15 01:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by leelee53 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think ur bf is really in a big trouble. u should try to understand his problem. If the phone is off then how could u imagine that he has done it some one would have threatened or insisted or forced him to do that. Try to know about his problem.
Take care and cheer up.
2007-03-15 01:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by sneha y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit rock bottom?? what does he mean by that, does he do any alcohol or drugs? is he depressed?? this one is hard to say unless we know a little more about him
could there be you AND someone else??? these are all just possibilities without us knowing more information...best wishes to you
2007-03-15 01:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really sound like he has some issues that he need to deal
with, i would just give him the space to deal with this.if this
realtionship have a chance then both of you need to be honest with each other. right now just give him the space that
he need.
2007-03-15 01:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he wants you to make a move on him... try not calling him .... you will see that he will start calling you ...you ignore one or two calls ..then answer him and answer like ( yeah..have been better ... no .... yeah... bye)that will make him call again ... some men like heavy treatment women.... like when he say lets go to the movies you say NO lets go the park.... Good luck
2007-03-15 01:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Hood-Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he needs time to be alone, yet if you are sure he needs your help, better tell him that you are stand by him. that's what couple do.. try to talk to him heart to heart, tell him what it's your responsibility as his partner to take care of him & because you love him.
or if he really needs professional help, then try to find one, soon
2007-03-15 01:43:12 · answer #7 · answered by pinkshirt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may be depressed. Encourage him to talk to his parents about seeking help. If he doesn't talk to his parents then YOU need to talk to yours and ask them to help you talk to his parents. Best of luck to the two of you
2007-03-15 01:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got some one else.
2007-03-15 01:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by FlowMaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋