I am going through job hunting right now, and at the beginning of the process, I went into the career center to go over my resume and edit it and the career counselor said he liked me because i was "very real". He did seem to enjoy my company even though i wasn't really doing anything entertaining or amusing, i didn;t think. I didn't really ask him what he meant, i just said, thanks. I was really flattered when he said that, even though i'm not sure exactly WHAT he was talking about, but it sounded like a good thing...:-)
I thought if this is to be taken as a compliment, maybe i can use it during my interviews when they ask me to describe myself.
questions:
-do you know what this means, when someone tells you that?
-is this the opposite of saying someone is "phony" or is it kind of different?
-do you think i can apply this to my interviewing process, in terms of describing my positive qualities?
2007-03-14 18:08:17 · 4 answers · asked by erockairheaven 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
"Real" people are usually open about themselves. They're not out to impress someone. Usually if someone asks them a question they won't try to find a way to make their answer sound a certain way--they'll just spit out what they're thinking. They're the same person in their personal lives and professional lives (to some degree--may act a bit different because are dealing with different people, but don't have any secrets), and, well, don't have any secrets. Don't tell people you're real, though. Even if people never mention it, it's usually obvious. And yes, it is the opposite of being "phony" to some extent. It's the opposite of having the ulterior motive of trying to impress, too.
It's pretty nice to be "real." I think it takes a lot of stress out of life. You feel like you can be yourself and be appreciated for who you are, and that you don't have to live up to some huge expectation that you set up for yourself. Sometimes it has its disadvantages: some people are looking for certain qualities and don't really care if a person is "real" as much as they care about if they think they have the qualities they're looking for in the job. But it does make the job that you do get much more satisfying, and so even if you get turned down from a job or two because you're so darned honest about yourself, it's definitely worth it to be that way.
2007-03-14 18:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by Laurel W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also called very real and am also in the job market process. Being was is considered very real is a benefit at times and a downfall sometimes. It means that you are blunt and honest. You don't sugar coat things. You tell it like it is. Some companies are looking for that and some just want a yes man/woman. That is something I have trouble with because if I strongly disagree with something I need to understand why that choice was made or I have trouble doing it. As I said friends and significant others like it when we are very real but some employers don't like it. I have had to learn to bite my tongue in interviews more than I like because of it. Hope this helps.
2007-03-15 01:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by Katrina M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes being real is the opposite of being phony. It is a refreshing quality but not always a desirable one in the workplace so be careful in using it in job interviews. (Generally, if you are real, the interviewer will note this without your having to tell her) Just be real don't say that you are.
2007-03-15 01:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when somebody says your real they mean your upfront , you say what you mean and you are not fake.
it doesnt mean your phony,
yes you could use it in the interviews but just be very careful and cautious about it!
2007-03-15 01:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by nirvan m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋