My gay partner is cheating me... not always but some times he is hiding things from me. I am so possessive . i can't even live with out him. i am looking for a lifelong relation but for him everything is fun. he is ever ready for leave me. but i can't. Sometimes he insults me much. when it is too heavy to suffer, i will leave him for some days. after that i will go to him and beg him for his kindness. i can't go like this. my self esteem becomes zero. but i can't live without his love.... please help me.... please give me an advice
2007-03-14 17:57:12 · 14 answers · asked by Tharun K 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That sounds really hard. It's easy on the outside to say that you deserve better, and should be with a person you cares about you. However, when you are in the situation it is really hard to get out when you care so much about someone. You should try to do what is best for you.
2007-03-14 20:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You'd better grow up a bit, see the gay world for how it really is and realize that if you don't give your partner space, you ARE going to lose him one of these days. Gay society is basically not monogamous in long term relationships; almost never!!! Ask people who have been together for 10 or more years (males only), and you will find what I say is true.
If he cheats now, he will continue. You can put up with it, join in together or separately, or complain yourself into being single. Ain't no other choices I see, dude.
2007-03-15 01:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you WILL live without him. He doesn't control your every breath. You control your every breath and you control your life, your emotions, your thoughts, and your actions. I'm sorry to say, but once a cheater, always a cheater. And it sounds like he doesn't care that he has hurt you. The best thing you can do for yourself is leave him and forget him. We all have our first loves & our first heart breaks. And sadly our first loves are not our forever loves. You can move on and will move on. You are better than that. You need to focus on yourself for awhile before you look for someone else to be with. Pamper yourself and treat yourself right. Once you realize that you are a terrific person, then you will date only guys that will treat you terrific. Good luck!
2007-03-15 01:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie DO NOT let him walk all over you you can do better than that for yourself i use to think the same thing my ex cheated on me more times than i can count he use to do so much stuff to me and i let him thinking things would change that i couldnt be alone without him but i have to tell you after some much needed advice and one push to many i grew some balls and left him im now with my fiance of 2 years yea me and happier than i ever thought i could be i still see my ex sometimes and i want to laugh at him he looks so bad and nasty i cant believe i put up with his bull for so long and trust me sweetie you will feel the same way leave your mans sorry behind cause you can do so much better than a cheater he doesnt deserve YOU grow your balls back leave him for good ................great luck
2007-03-15 01:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by getcuriouswithgeorge 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
KTMFTTC!... kick that mother f**k*r to the curb! You are only a zero if u stick with him. as hard as it is MOVE ON. U don't want him. U both don't want the same things. It is not fair to either of u. Go dance another dance with someone else who's asking!
2007-03-15 03:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by choose happiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it. It may hurt initally, but it would be better for you on the long run. You need to find someone that treats with respect, and also need to learn to respect yourself. You are worth much more than you are getting.
Spend some time with yourself and with friends. It will make you feel better.
2007-03-15 01:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can live without his love. You lived without it before you even knew him.
You're in a really toxic relationship. Get out of it and get yourself into counselling. You need help from a competent professional.
2007-03-15 01:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by castle h 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Howdy,
Leave this dead-beat loser, you deserve to be "truly" happy, seek prof. help if you need to. You "have" to leave this situation before the situation eats you alive! Keep your chin-up, be strong and leave this situaton ASAP! Best of Luck, Cheers!
2007-03-15 04:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can live without his love. He is using you and he knows he can get away with it. You are no ones doormat. It is a bad relationship. End it.
2007-03-15 01:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to forget him. He is making you fool out of the love you have for him. You can still find another guy that will truly love you. He do not deserve your love.
2007-03-15 02:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by kibbs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋