I'm 31, and so is my wife. I have the sexual drive of a typical male. She has the drive of no woman. She'd be okay if we never had sex. I could go into a million reasons why, but they'd all be guesses. She's also very much against going to discuss it with somebody, mostly out of embarrassment. As it is now, our sexual relationship is very infrequent, and it's becoming a problem in our effort to have a baby.
2007-03-14 17:52:16 · 14 answers · asked by Raisul A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like she has some major hangups. Tell her this is an important issue and it is affecting your marriage. Insist she go to a counselor with you. If she won't go, go alone. You should let her know this could lead to divorce. It can you know.
Maybe she is gay and just not being honest with you. You need to hash it out with her and get to the bottom of this. If you don't get much now, you won't get any after you have a baby unless you resolve this important issue.
2007-03-14 18:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is willing to, try Aphrodisiacs. There are so many, and there are a lot that work very well for women. there are lots of different foods
Alsotry using Aphrodisiac Incents such as Ylang-Ylang, or if she is willing to, get her to take some Horny Goat Weed. In fact there are a lot of herbal libido enhancers on the market and some are very good (ask your pharmacist or online sotre which are the best sellers)
Fatigue and depression can often result in a low sex-drive, also a lack of physical activity - so these might need to be issues that you should address.
Maybe try and get her to think about sex subtly - maybe leave a women's health magazine about for her to read - they normally have a section on sex tips for women (this could get her thinking and aroused)
Love her, make sure she is happy. Try massages and then after a few stress-relief massages - study up on erotic massage (you can get dvds) and give her one.
Don't work on the sex part, just work on arousing her and making her come to you. Don't be forceful, be available.
Also, try working on yourself. Take care of your personal and hygenic grooming. Stay fit and active, stay appealing for her.
Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.
2007-03-15 03:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by DeMarco 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Clearly this is important to you, as it should be. Sex between a married couple is very important even if not for making kids. You need to seriously consider divorce (sorry) as she doesn't want to make things better. Can you really see living the rest of your life like this? Now is the time as there are no children involved, having one won't make it better only worse.
2007-03-14 17:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait until you are too old to want it to resolve this. Make her talk to you. Sounds like you might be heading for a divorce. Tell her that. If she cares about you she will try to work this out. How can you live a happy normal life without sex. Does she want you to get it elsewhere? Ask her that.
2007-03-14 19:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by joker_32605 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of women have a low sex drive. Some women just need a litttle more time getting "all the way there". Maybe you could pleasure her in different ways, use toys,... to help her enjoy it more.
2007-03-14 18:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by heidi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her go talk to someone but you should keep encouraging her and if she won't then you should. Sounds like she has a very deep problem that you don't know about.
2007-03-14 17:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a box of sex drives on her birthday
2007-03-17 18:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't seem into you. Sorry :( You need to try and talk to her, and if she refuses or gets uneasy about the talk then you should stop trying to have children with her because you'll never be happy.
2007-03-14 18:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like she has some issues that she need to deal with
'she need to talk to someone, this is not good. especially since] you are looking at having a child. something is going
on. you need to find out what the real deal is.
2007-03-14 18:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her 2 take pills to stimulate her.i think u dont have enough romance in ur life.dont try to do all this at 1 go.pl do it gradually.best of luck!!
2007-03-14 18:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋