April 12th will be four years that I have been married to my hubby. We have an awesome realationship. We use to fight all the time but here in the past 7 months we have had one minor fight. Other than that we get along great. He works in the plants everyday from 5am-5pm and comes straight home. He calls me at luch time and calls me on his way home and talks to me the whole time. WEll about three months ago I started having really bad dreams about him. In my dreams he is really mean to me. In others I catch him with another girl cheating. When I was pregnant I had bad dreams like that but I know that I am not preggers now; I had my tubes tied and well I just had my monthly. My dreams are so real. I talked to him about them because they really bother me. I dont know what to do. I dont know whats causing them...help please!
2007-03-14 17:48:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am nither pschic or psychotic. I am happy. I have four beautiful children and a healthy marriage. I just have had bad dreams.
2007-03-14 17:55:37 · update #1
okay I know that he is not cheating. He is at work all day long. He works in the plants and calls me every free chance that he gets. He never goes out with his friends. He tells me its because he does not think that its fair that I have to stay at home all day with the kids by myself. He thinks that would be selfish...My husband is a very good man...he is the love of my life and I do not nor will I ever doubt or qyuestion his faith to me. And no I do not believe that its a sign from God.
2007-03-14 18:08:09 · update #2
yes i am a bit insecure of my wait. I am on a crash diet and although he does not think that I need to be on it he supportes it because he knows that it bothers me.
2007-03-14 18:29:37 · update #3
gee the rest of em are full of it.... just because you have bad dreams of your husband, does not mean that what you are dreaming is going to happen, its a sign of your insecurity, is it because you have put on weight since the birth of your last child ??? or something like that. Its nothing to worry about its only a dream.... if he was cheating on you - you would see the signs elsewhere
2007-03-14 18:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by boonoora 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are sub-consciously feeling insecure about him. It could be nothing at all as it is only a dream. Don't let it bother you so much and maybe it will go off itself. Just focus on your daily routine and the normal things that you do everyday. And during bedtime, perhaps ask your hubby to give you a good tight hug and a goodnight kiss followed by little tickles here and there will make you relax and ready to have a good night sleep. Hope this helps.
2007-03-15 00:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by happy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok..dreams about him cheating usually mean that there is something that is coming between you two...in this case its probably work. He does work long hours and maybe deep down inside you wish he didn't work so long. I used to dream like that in the beginning of my marriage when DH worked 12 hours days. When I realized the meaning the dreams went away.
2007-03-15 01:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're under anxiety. These things tend to play out in your dreams. It most likely is not precognitive forces at play. Since you're relationship with your husband seems to be the theme, it's quite possible that your anxiety is stemming from this relationship. It seems, to me at least, that you might just be suffering from what they've termed post-traumatic stress disorder; in a mild form. You might be anticipating a fight that never comes. If it begins to cause harm to your waking life, go to a physician to rule out physical causes. If none are found, seek out a good therapist,
That's my two cents for ya.
2007-03-15 01:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by dontsmokecrackorshootthatsmack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your subconcious is afraid of what "might be" going on in your marriage. From what you say that is probably not the case. You appear to have a normal loving marriage. Dreams can be very unnerving at times but try to remember that they rarely have any basis in real life. Let those troubling thoughts go unless you have real facts to go on and it doesn't sound like you do. Enjoy your marriage and forget these fantasy dreams.
2007-03-15 00:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Don R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone has dreams about their spouse cheating but the way it sounds u pretty much dream them constantly. it sounds to me like u have an underlying fear that your relationship will turn back the way it was. let your husband know that u need the reassurance that all that is behind u. u just have to work on the forgiveness part and discover your new relationship. everything will be fine.
2007-03-15 01:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by a very happily married woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say that you are concerned about this recent change for the better in your relationship and your fears are being played out in your dreams. I would say you are worried that things will go back to the way they were.
2007-03-15 00:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by simplyme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not fighting enough. My Fiance and I went 3 weeks without fighting at all and it got boring. All my roommates fight with their boyfriends real loud and I joked with him that I felt left out that I never got to fight. The sad part is, is that it was kinda true. How can you have ups if you never have downs? We had a stupid little fight last week and I feel better. It just gets boring without any conflict. Of coarse I would hate to really argue and name call and shout and scream, but a little bit of conflict is healthy. So I suggest to pick a little fight.
2007-03-15 00:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by kadan 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Don't take marital advise from people on line. The point is not so much that you are having nightmares about your husband but that you are having chronic nightmares. Consult your physician and see if there is a medical condition at play.
2007-03-15 00:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think its a sign from above!
Donot sit idily,when my hubby was cheating I also ahd dreams,I think its Gods way of telling us s/thing.
The fact that hes nice to u means tht s/thing is up.
Never ignore ur gut feelings girl,they tell you s/thing.
2007-03-15 01:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋