How do I get my dearly beloved to come to bed at night instead of playing spades on the computer all night? Dont say sex, he just gets out of bed after!
2007-03-14 17:31:26 · 31 answers · asked by plainfieldcletusblue 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ask him who he loves more. Tell him you need to feel the security of him sometimes. Tell him that he can spend time with the computer sometimes but your his wife and you need his lovin more than the computer does. it doesn't have any feels, but you do
2007-03-14 17:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dani 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You may want to find out if it is spades that he is playing or who he is playing with. If this is an every day thing that he does all the time, then spending time with you, then that could be a problem. Otherwise, sit with him and watch him play and then you both go to bed together.
2007-03-15 00:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rip the d*mn thing out the wall & throw the monitor across the room--he'll get the message!! LOL! Just kidding......I used to play dominoes all night long its so addicting and what drew me to it was that you can chat while u play-- and u really meet some uhh....interesting people(and freaks--I DO mean sexually freaky) on there. But have u tried just telling him its bothering u and u would really love for him to come to bed with u? (Sex would have been my 1st answer). I got bored with it after a while and stopped playing, but he's a man and I see its not likely he's going to get bored as easy. Good luck sweetheart. Wish I had a better suggestion.
2007-03-15 00:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by boolissa2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think deep and hard - what did you do or did not do that made you partner prefer the computer over you and dislike sex so much? Actually, it is not the computer that keeps him away from you. It is something more than that. If your communication lines are open, just talk it over with him. Tell him how you feel about his actions and ask him to work out with you how you can both bring the heat in your relationship. If he is not open about his feelings, be more sensitive to his needs and try to determine why he is acting that way. I know it hurts but have you thought about the possibility of another woman - or him having fallen out of love?
2007-03-15 00:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by back stabbed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only an issue if you let it become one you need to have a talk with him and let him know that you would perfer if he come to bed with you at least. Communication is the most important part in here. Thats what i had to do i told myne that i want him in bed by 2 in the morning so i can sleep LOL and we communicated on it and stuff but yea just communicate with him. Good Luck
2007-03-15 01:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convince him that you love him more than anything else in this world. he'll go to bed with you almost every night if you can ever make him believe it. That's what my wife did and most of the time when I'm not working all night, I go to bed with her. She blows me every day and gives me any other sex I want, when I want it, wherever I want it (within reason.)
You will need to completely honor your wedding vows of "serving your husband faithfully." Most women think that part of marriage doesn't count, but it's in there for a reason. The reason being that it is what it takes to earn our respect. You serve us and we'll never betray you. Plus, we'll provide all sorts of comfort and lovies.
2007-03-15 01:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him a laptop then he can play spades in bed?
2007-03-15 02:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by paul R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him about this. He may not need as much sleep as you do. My husband is up later than I am and says that going to bed too early causes him to be awake at a very early hour. I just go on to bed and he comes to bed when he is ready. I have heard and read that we need less sleep as we get older.
2007-03-15 00:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by curious74432 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him that you need him to be by you side and want his company. Tell him to play his computer games alternate nights for a change and later, you may suggest once every weekend. The man is obviously addicted to the computer games. Teach him that there is more to life than playing computer games. Talk to him gently. Hope he gets the hint.
2007-03-15 00:39:00 · answer #9 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.. I am sorry to say.. If you put it on him.. He will not have the energy to get out of bed and play spades.. Plus.. He will not WANT to play spades.. Freak his azz and the problem wil be solved.
2007-03-15 00:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the computer, if he wasn't just playing spades he will probably flip out to the extreme and get mad at you, otherwise he wont be too pissed, dont get him a new computer.
2007-03-15 00:44:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋