I'm afraid of growing up...?

Question

I'm 17, and i'm afraid of growing up and having responsibilities. I like not having responsibilities. But i know sooner or later i will need to get a job/graduate/pay bills etc...and deal with everyday life, and i'm terrified. I think this stems from my depression, which i'm fighting with at the moment.....Everyone says i should be excited because i have freedom etc....but i'm still not looking forward to it. How did you deal with growing up?

Answer 1

Be afraid.. be very afraid...

Growing up has lots of rewards and pitfalls... Sure, you have freedom, but you also have responsibility. You'll never win. You'll have to bow down to the Govenment. Death and Taxes are the only things you know you will get. Growing old you might get, you might not. Your choice.

Answer 2

Well, I'm 28 and I'm still scared to grow up. lol Actually, you're thinking about too much too soon. I've done the same thing myself. When the time comes, it won't be so overwhelming. You just do what you have to do and you don't really think about it. Just like now, the things you do in your life, you don't over analyze them or think about them, you just do them. The same thing happens when you're an adult. The only thing that has changed is that you're older and you need to be a little more responsible. Believe me, if you mess up (and you will! We all do) you're not going to do it repeatedly because you're the one who is held responsible and being immature gets old real quick.

You're already thinking about these things and that's a good sign that you'll be responsible and that you're already aware of what could go wrong. Try to ease up a bit though. As you see, we've all felt this way. That's part of life. Try to think about the things you'll get to be able to do. No curfew, no bedtime, buying anything you want (if you've got the money), the freedom to decide to do whatever you want. That's a great thing. Don't dwell on the negative so much. Think about the things you're going to gain. With responsibility come priviledge. You just need to stop focusing on what you're losing and focus on what you're gaining. Being an adult can be fun.

Answer 3

Luckily, growing up comes gradually. Be carefree for now. If you concentrate on your studies at this time you'll have no problem with responsibility when the time comes. At seventeen, I bet most teens feel just as you do. I know many are frightened to go off to college or to get a first apartment as much as they are excited about all that freedom. Trust me, you will quickly adjust. Were you ever afraid to drive a car? Many are when they take Driver's Ed. Then later after getting their drivers license they wonder why they fretted so. You will have friends who are taking baby steps with you and you will all learn. Quit thinking about it and enjoy your time now. It goes way too fast. But freedom will be worth the responsibilities. You'll see and will be proud of yourself when you learn to pay bills, etc.

Answer 4

Dear kierra

Growing up is a big responsability and can be a very scary thing to deal with in life, my recomedations for you is to take it one step at a time. Don't just jump in, it will cause too much stress. First graduate and then get a full time job, I wouldn't recomend having a job before graduating just because it will cause too unwanted stress and fatigue. Before deciding to move out make sure you are secure enough in your job, make sure you have reliable transportation, and make sure you will have enough work hours to pay the rent, utilities, and your cell phone. A very important thing is to make sure you communicate what you want with your parents. If you want to stay at home make sure they know that, if you want to go to college tell them that, as long as they know what you want they should do there best in helping you achieve your goals. I made the mistake of not telling my parents what I wanted and at the age of 18 I got kicked out of the house and had nowhere to go. It took me about a month before I got my own place. It was hard. Growing up means you have to sacrifice allot of things. I found that working took up most of my day and friends came second. Yes the freedom is nice, but sometimes you miss someone there to talk to, someone who would help you get through your problems. It made me feel alone and very scared and made me wonder where I was going in life. The nice thing is though after you go through all that and just stop worrying about it you get through it. Today I'm married and have a kid on the way, who new that would ever happen. Life is very scary but just take it one step at a time, work towards what you want at your own pace. I recommend setting a goal and a time line, and just keep working towards it, eventually it will come! Good Luck.

Answer 5

There is no exact way to deal with growing up. Just go with the flow and live in the moment. You are only young once. As for your fears of responsibility, they will come and you will have to ak e a choice. Make sure you put some thought into it or get a second opinion. Be happy to be growing up!

Answer 6

First, you should be seen by a doctor to see if you really do have depression. If so, you need medication. Have your parents kept you a child? At 17, you should be looking to your future. If you have not had a part-time job yet, I believe that is what you need. You need the responsibility of going to work, working, handling a checking account, saving, spending, etc. It doesn't matter if you come from a rich family where they feel you do not have to work.....you need to work for your own self worth and self esteem. Once you take that first step, you will find you feel like you are growing up and you will enjoy it. You need to make some of your own decisions so if you have controlling parents, explain that you need to begin to make some of your own decisions. After all, their job as parents is to grow you up and prepare you to be a happy, healthy, productive adult. You have so much fun ahead of you! Get going.

Answer 7

It isn't always easy. But you kinda slide into it.

I would suggest you practice writing some checks and open a bank account before you are on your own. Try taking some small responsibilities and then it will be so much easier when you really have them.

I wish for you a happy life.

Answer 8

Growing up isn't easy. You will have pressures for the rest of your life. Just think of it this way. You don't have to grow up all at once. Take life one day at a time. Growing up is a lifelong progression. I am twenty-four and still growing up. You are seventeen, you have a lot of years ahead of you to make all those important decisions. It isn't like you turn eighteen and have to make a hundred grown up decisions.

Answer 9

i don't want to grow up either but i think its to late for me

its not something yo can stop it just happens and with responsibility's come more freedom one day you will have your own place and a car and your own money

i suffer from sever depression and have for many years i know how hard facing new thing can be you have to just take it one step at a time

Answer 10

Well, if you feel like this depression is really overwelming, seek counsling. You dont need to feel like an oddball or anyhting, but it could help you face with life. Dont let your friends tell you that growing up is great, because they face different things in their life. good luck!