i dont have any friends. how do i make friends?

Question

i am pretty lonely, i have been pretty much my whole life. people dont seem to like me very much =/ even people i have never met before. i try to be outgoing but nobody seems to want to do anything other than say "hi, how ya doin?". my whole life has been this way and lately its really been getting to me. i see other people with lots of friends, and i think to myself " what do they have that i dont?". since i have been this way for so long i have developed a sort-of self loath. i cant stand being me. i often wonder if theres something wrong with me..... i try and try and try to figure out why people dont like me. but i cant figure it out =[ ive asked people to hang out but they say "yea, we can hang out" but they just blow me off after that. i dont know what to do anymore. ive become very depressed because of this. and i even cry sometimes. and i pray that god will change things for me =/ but so far....nothing.

Answer 1

I'm so sorry... Maybe you just have just not find the right friend yet. My mother always tell me choose your friend don't let them choose you. And as much as you try to fit in as much as you don't, sometime you just have to let things happen and forget about it. I'm sure someone is there that is feeling the same way as you now. But things will get better. sometimes the best thing to do is let it all happen...I can be your friend if you want my Email is... [e-mail], we can talk.

Answer 2

Well, you still have some time. I'm 25 and in the same situation. All my life, I've only ever had really close friends, and never lots of friends that are kinda close. Each era has ended . Lately, I had one friend, but he turned on me, and all the people I knew through him also turned on me at his word. I feel like a rock star that has suddenly become totally unknown. I know what it's like. What you need to do is make one really good friend, and they'll help you with the rest. At the same time, you may have to endure a few hardships to keep the friendship, but you alone can decide whether it is worth it or not. I met so many people while I had one friend, and after I lost that friend, sure enough, nobody calls me. I realize that he wasn't a true friend because of this. I mean, I know he wouldn't be able to stand hating me, but then seeing someone else not hate me, so he had to turn the whole group against me. You may feel bad, but I feel worse, because I'm 25 and had been thinking that my life was at a turning point, then all of a sudden things instantly went back to where they were. It took months to build this new life, and just one moment to dismantle it.

Answer 3

Well, since you do have faith in God, I do hope that you don't let your faith wane. I believe that God can help anyone with anything. For me, before I had friends, I had to talk more in class. I would make jokes to those nearest to me. Being funny was my way of sticking out and coming off as friendly. From then on, a joke would bring on a conversation and I would always talk to those people about what we had in common. Eventually, a friendship developed. For example, if we both hated a teacher, we would always talk about them! That may not be the best thing to talk about, but whatever works, works.

Furthermore, you should never loathe yourself. You are an indepenedent person with amazing qualities. You may not seem amazing to yourself, but you are. I don't know you, but I know that everyone possesses something within them that I could never be or do. You're unique for some reason. Find out what that is and use it. I know you'll find friends. Just let it happen by being yourself.

Answer 4

I was always told that the way that you carry yourself when you walk into a room determines if someone will talk to you or not. Maybe try walking into a room with confidence but don't seem cocky and try something other than hi how are you doing try can you believe this or a general question that can't really be blown off and try to spark a convo that way .

Answer 5

If you really want friends you have to go places you enjoy to go.Act as if you are friendly and interested in others.Come out of your shell,if you go to school and enjoy a certain class,
start there to meet new friends,If you like to play pool,meet new people,go to church met new people,you have to initiated the
conversation and except some rejection.It takes time to meet really good friends and keep the friendships going.It's not an easy venture.Good Luck.

Answer 6

God will halp you no matter what .God help in a silent way and his help comes slowly,just help a littel longer, it don't cost you anything.Actually, people don't really like me too.Only good people will be friends with you if you're a good friend and if you polite with other.But if you really wants to find someone to talk to, mabey I can help you my e-mail address is '[e-mail]'.

Answer 7

you may be autistic. you should take some classes in social skills and social understanding. everyone should have friends. you should also try to join clubs or groups around your interests... then you can meet people who like the same things as you

Answer 8

Email me and I'll be your email buddy.And maybe you should talk to alot of people everyday,and especially talk to people who you know are going to be nice and sincere to you.They are always the best people to become friends with,because they usually hang with everyone.EMAIL ME IF YOU WANT.I'm one of those kinds of people who will talk to everyone.

Answer 9

You sound like me, I am exactly the same, so I would say the same thing about myself and wonder why too.

Answer 10

look at it this way: being permit down beats being THROWN down> Smile doll - sorrow would not look stable on you! BQA: Myself. I ought to on no account opt to break a promise to myself back! L8R Katie! GR