If you are an adult, does your mother treat you like a child.
Mine doesn't treat me like anything, because she doesn't speak to me, but when she did .... What can be done about this?
2007-03-14 17:09:27 · 17 answers · asked by Proud Mama of 4 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She wrote her sisters off 25 yrs ago, two of her best friends 5 yrs ago, me and my kids and husband a year ago, while stealing 40 grand from us.
2007-03-14 17:18:15 · update #1
Wow...I read the crappy advice, The way I see it is... Your an adult and your mother treats you like a child.. Ok..Thats because you are her child and thats the way parents always see their kids till death..BUT..there is a fine line.. Parents have to trust in their child to make good decisions, and IF your an adult you probably got all your good sense after you grew up.. (Like I Did).. Thought i knew everything and learned I didnt know squat. Your Mother and you seem to have a hard relationship have you tried to talk to her and tell her how you feel..maybe there is something mentally wrong with her like Alzheimers setting in.. or something medically wrong .. You can be the best daughter in the world and if there is a medical condition there then maybe she cant control what she is doing.. Just a thought..Keep being a good daughter..
2007-03-14 17:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by Dana D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont go into a lot of detail, but it sounds like maybe the problem started long ago. Even if you are a child or an adult, for a parent to not speak to you, that is an issue, a serious one. I dont know what your mom has been through, but if she is in the middle years, I know that my mom went though something similar, she was just going through the change after her hysterectomy. Once she got on hormone therapy, she settled down. I guess this is more serious though, if she is not even speaking to you. I know of a close friend of mine whose mother is the exact same way. He turned out to be a mean and resentful man. You need to turn this around and talk to her!!!!!! Before too much time passes. She might be really disturbed by things in her life and might not be able to deal with you, sadly. Talk to HER.
2007-03-14 17:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 10:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by scafuri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is your mother and no matter what happened there will always be a part of the that loves her and there is a spot in your heart for her. I think that maybe you should reach out and be the bigger person. Its also going to take a compromising on your part and hers and i don't think that she is really a crappy person I think that you need to take a deeper look and put yourself in her shoes. Women do have mid life crises too, and my mom left me during hers and there was a lot of hurt feeling and still to this day there are, but I knew that I had to put that behind to if I ever anted a relationship again.
2007-03-14 17:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mother and I speak but obviously don't like each other, although I do love her. She's a taker who doesn't think I give enough, she expects me to help take care of her which I don't mind dong but she also expects me to take care of my older sister (plus the younger siblings if they need it) who is healthy and quite able to work. She just has a bad attitude and gets ticked when things don't go her way and quits her job. She (Mother) is always negative, full of criticism and thinks that I need her to tell me what to do and how to spend my money. I finally started going to counseling last summer, been a big help to me.
2007-03-14 17:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what happens, she is still your mother. Yes we all have no choice on that. So just let her be and do what you seem fit. Don't let it get you down or it will bring unhappiness to you everytime you think about it. So cheer up and go have some fun with your friends. Good luck.
2007-03-14 17:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in life one has to become as a warrior. That is to not allow yourself to feel discouraged, or downtrodden. To take control of your reactions, rather than merely your thoughts. Perhaps, you should formulate a plan to get your own place, then you will be free.
2007-03-14 17:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by LuckyJack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but maybe you're the crappy daughter. If you think you ended up so great, take a step back and realize---YOUR MOTHER was the one who raised and taught you!
2007-03-14 17:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbell_pixy24 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Make an effort to speak to her... she is the only mother you have so make the effort now!!
2007-03-14 17:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by Panda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In reference to your main question . . .
If you are so great, your mother couldn't be so bad . . .
And if you can talk about your mother like this, you can't be so great . . .
2007-03-14 17:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by Say What? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋