Ok in the summer i met this guy and we did it but then i stopped talkin to him. Then i found out my sister is goin out with this guy for like two months already and that's when i find out its that guy.So basically i slept with her boyfriend but before she even knew him.I wanna tell her but im afraid she'll hate me and that she'll tell my parents and they don't know im not a virgin. So what should i do please help me.
2007-03-14 16:48:09 · 39 answers · asked by iluvsuperman84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You could just tell her that you met him before or something like that but you don't need to tell her that you two did it.
2007-03-14 16:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by j_son_06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, relax. Your a woman, not a girl, a woman! Manipulation is your middle name. The ball is in your court.
He is going out with your sister. You slept with him. Your sister has TWO people to be pissed off at, (YOU and HIM).
This is a Nash equilibrium problem. You both have no threat values. Meaning that both of you don't want your sister to know what happened.
However, HE doesn't know that. All he knows is that he's going out with her, and that you slept together. If you make him think that you and your sister are close, and that there is no big deal if she finds out that YOU slept with him, but it will be very bad for HIM, that gives you an advantage!
Now, you can threaten him by telling him, if he doesn't behave, you'll tell your sister. And he'll think you'll do it! What he doesn't know is that you would never tell your sister, because you don't want her to know either. That's valuable information he should never know! What will also never occur to him is that he can treaten you by telling your sister. Something he won't do if he's going out with your sister.
The GOOD NEWS! The only time he will comfortably tell your sister is when they break up. In which case, your sister will hate him, and you can both talk about what a sleezy liar he was. These are ideas which you should start planting into your sisters head from now, since you're not really ruining a great catch for her, since he already cheated on your sister!
Wow, no more Indian Soap Operas for me.. i'm becoming a Sindura.. : (
2007-03-14 16:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by Felix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so worried about your sister's reaction if and when she learns about the two of you, just be forthright and tell her that she has no reason to be jealous of you or your relationship as it happened before their relationship even had a chance to start to take off.
If she gets mad, then remind her that he used to be your boy friend long before he was her boy friend. If anyone should have any kind of resentment toward the other sister, it would and should be you, BUT, you don't resent the fact that they are seeing each other. You regret the situation could put you into such a quandary and make it very confusing for you.
When she starts in on you, just flat out say, "Just remember that you are getting my seconds. What do you think of that?"
Of course that is only if you want to humiliate her or make her upset on purpose.
2007-03-14 17:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by Double J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, normally I would advise you to be truthful and lay all the facts on the table. But in this instance I think you should just let it go. Dont tell your sister. Hopefully, the relationship wont last too long. Especially if you think your sister would rat you out to your parents. I'm sorry that your family relationships are so messed up. I think that people are so much better off when they can just tell the truth to those around them. I would think the guy will be getting really nervous when he realizes that you two are sisters or worse yet, did he know when he started to date her? He sounds like a creep but i don't think she will listen to you unless he has like a tatoo on his thingy and you could offer her proof. I think she wont listen and it will just cause problems at home. Good Luck -k-
2007-03-14 16:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you there are things that are better left unsaid. Maybe, this is not the right time to open up to your sister. If you both do not have a relationship to keep your secrets on a confidential basis I don't think it will do you any good to tell her. Try and talk to the guy you sleep with and let him know this is something you want to keep between the two of you. If he's a good guy he'll understand.
2007-03-14 16:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by ling ling 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness, you sound so young! What are you doing even having an intimate relationship like that. My guess is is that your parents can't be that blind to the fact that you and your sister are sexually active. Be honest with your sister. She won't be pleased, but the truth now is better than not at all, then down the road it come up ... and not by you. Love yourself enough to be truthful. After all, it didn't happen when he was with your sister. It was before the fact. I hope both of you will rethink relationships at your age. Good luck!
2007-03-14 16:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it all depends on your relationship with your sister...are you very close? i know she will feel bad but if you're close she might understand... whats with the guy has he approached you..has hesaid anything? I guess it would eb allrigth if you 3 clear this out and you and him make clear to her that it was just sex you had and theres no ther feelings between and that you didnt know there was going to be a future encounter..she might be really mad and break up but atleast you were truthful...n and you did nothin wrong but the sooner you tell her the better and is she into the guy much?
2007-03-14 16:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it like this. He finds out who her sister is ( you ! ) and tells her he slept with you. Then she is furious with you for not telling. Its best she hears it from her sister. Just say before you and him dated I did it with him, it was a mistake so I stopped talking to him. Im not interested in him, otherwise id still be with him. Hope this helps
2007-03-14 16:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it if telling your sister to protect her in some way from this guy, then tell her... Other then that I really don't see a point of you telling her this... It's in the past, so I think you should just keep it cool... But then again, its your choice, again, i feel like there's nothing to tell her...
2007-03-14 16:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by Rain L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your sister and explain to to her it was before they started go out,tell her you thought it was important she knew and that you trust her not to tell your parents. That you love her and hope that she understand and assure her it's over between you and this guy. a little grown up advises save sex for love only
2007-03-14 17:00:12 · answer #10 · answered by sandy.d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋