I'm not in love with my boyfriend anymore. He doesn't have good hygiene or a good job or motivation to make himself a better person. He just sits around all day. That's not the biggest of my worries! I am in love with a girl I think. I have never loved a girl before. I used to think I wanted it to work with my boyfriend, but he doesn't show me he loves me anymore and this girl makes me laugh, she is smart and beautiful, and I feel a deep weird feeling when I am around her.
It's like she makes my heart race where my boyfriend makes it crack in pieces.
What to do! What to do? Am I gay? I wouldn't mind going on dates with her or snuggling up to her and kissing her. I have never felt this for girls before. I think they are pretty but never felt this way. Should I see a pyschiatrist? I am lost.
2007-03-14
16:36:23
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lol Julio-you are who makes me sad.
2007-03-14
16:49:31 ·
update #1
no I was saying should I see a pyschiatrist because I am so lost on my feelings b/w my boyfriend and don't know how soon if I should tell the girl I like her sorry about the offense didn't mean it taht way
2007-03-16
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Ok, let's try separating the two issues. First, your relationship with your boyfriend is over whether you realize it or not. The love is gone and he sounds like he leaves a lot to be desired even if the love was still there. Break it off with him and move on.
Second, you're interested in another woman, for the first time. The first step would be to accept the fact that you're sexually attracted to other women. Then ask her out. Good luck.
2007-03-14 17:42:06
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answered by carora13 6
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i don't think you need a psychiatrist. Your lost and that is normal for the feelings you are having. you should clearly leave your boy no matter if you get with this girl or not.
in regards to your being gay or not don't be so quick to put your self in a category. Try it out for a while, ask her out and see were it goes from there. If it dose not work keep your mind open to both sexes. Its OK to explore your sexuality, see what you like and stay open minded. You could be gay or Bi or Bi-curious. Take your time there is no rush it's your life!!!
2007-03-14 17:01:30
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answered by starQt 2
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This happens all the time! People who have had heterosexual relationships develop feelings for someone of their same gender. They find out that they may be bi or gay @ different stages in their life, once they find someone who makes their heart skip a couple beats. You're NOT going crazy, don't worry :). I'd definitely break up w/ your guy, though. He seems like an undeserving lazy jerk. Do you know if the girl you're interested is bi or gay? Do you think she may harbor feelings for you as well?
2007-03-14 16:46:20
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answered by dementors_suck 6
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Don't worry, no "shrink" is needed, you're not sick in the head. But you could try approaching this girl and see if she like you too. Be careful not to ruin a perfectly good friendship though. Good luck!
Oh, and to your boyfriend, just tell him the same thing you told us (just leave out the other girl if you're uncomfortable with it).
2007-03-14 16:41:50
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answered by ∞.DS.∞ 4
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First thing you should do is get out of the unhappy relationship that you're in. He's not about to change...then worry about everything else later.....1 step at a time.
2007-03-14 16:39:21
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answered by Anonymous
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Love is Love. Its not based on gender. First i'd probably dump that boyfriend of yours if you dont think that you're in a healthy relationship anymore plus its not fair to him if you're in love with someone else.
2007-03-14 16:43:19
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answered by rhaevyn 2
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Don't freak out, sometimes people just go through these stages. Of course, you might be bi. There's nothing wrong with that .. but she might not feel the same way.
2007-03-14 16:45:59
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answered by KristaElizabeth 3
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Why should you see a psychiatrist, are you trying to say we are nutty because we are gay. Thats how it reads to me.
2007-03-15 11:51:51
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answered by Anonymous
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ask god what he thinks about that, i am really sad because of this world
2007-03-14 16:47:11
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answered by Anonymous
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