Any cheaters out there?

Question

I am curious to see what people think about cheating. It seems as if more people are falling victim...and it is ALWAYS the good one's this seems to happen to.

I mean, it seems as if the logical thing to do would be to just be honest and let the other party make the decision of whether or not to deal with it. But then if you choose to do so, doesn't your conscience tell you otherwise? How are you able to ignore it?

This is just a random thought and am looking forward to your answers.

Answer 1

I can not lie to you cause I dont lie to myself.. I cheated on my ex husband, we were not happy and I found it somewhere else. Yes I told him, and yes it took me a year to do so, we didnt divorce over it tho, we chose we didnt really ever love each other as much as we thought.. It hurts like hell to hold that inside of you, and then to let it out.. I dont regret it but know what I have done wrong..

Answer 2

Curiosity , strong attraction for someone else and lack of self control were my reasons for cheating in the past. I always thought that what he didn't know wouldn't hurt. Yeah the conscious does kick in, sometimes more than others. I got caught and although my ex " forgave me" and "took me back" he brought the incident up every day. We moved 1200 miles a way and I still heard about it for years. Even when we went back home for my father's funeral 7 years later! The next time I was going o start a friendship with someone else I told him and why. We split up. Now that I am older and have had this experience I decided if I want to be with someone else that bad it is better to just be honest.

Answer 3

I am single and retired. I get hit on by married ladies 5 to 1! They seem to be dissatisfied with life at home and don't want a divorce but to be treated like some one special. Their lives at home are heading nowhere and the feel like the world has passed them by. My conscience never bothers me as I never broke up the marrage as it was all ready gone years ago. She was just there as it was better being on her own in the real world. Most have let so much time pass they are well past their prime and will have a lonely future ahead of themselves. Most have had many affairs looking for the right situation only to find there is no true ideal relationship there. They have given much and now realize the error of their ways and am looking for some last ditch fun in life. I am there to spice it up for these ladies. In most cases the old man knows what is going on and her cheating keeps her out of his hair and he can enjoy his girlfriend more that way! It is sad but part of life.

Answer 4

Do you honestly think anyone is going to admit to this? They are cheaters for pete sake. Those who built their relationships around lies....not ones you'd get saying "Oh, I did...it was me me me". I've been cheated on, I've counseled people who cheat and truth be told, when it comes down to it, there is no logic, rhyme or reason. It's pure selfish, instant gratification from those who think they are clever enough to have their cake and eat it too. Nothing more, nothing less. Just a bunch of cowards who would give every excuse in the book to justify their actions rather than to admit to any wrong doing. And I just love those who push the blame on the ones they cheated on! Real bunch of winners that group is. They have no clue what a conscience is, nor have they a moral bone in their body. I have no tolerance for anyone who can't own up and be accountable for something they know is going to happen before it happens....which is ALWAYS the case.

Answer 5

The way I see it is that until you are old enough to have something serious its "ok" to cheat I mean if you know you are going to brake up which usually happens if you are young why bother giving everything you got to a person that you will forget later in your live... What I would never forgive is that if you are married to someone or engage to that person you cheat on them or the opposite than you are really an ....

Answer 6

personally if someone wanted to cheat, i think they should be honest from the start, and not beat around the bush, while waiting to see if their relationship with the other person works out. i believe people don't always have a strong conscience, if u have a subdued conscience your going to do things u shouldn't, and your really not going to give it alot of thought.

Answer 7

I am not a cheater, but was cheated on. Sucks real bad! The losers who do it are just that-losers! Like Dr. Phil says, "Before you start anything, finish what you got!" What a waste of human matter! Get out of it before you get into something else. I guess I am bitter.

Answer 8

I had plenty of opportunities during my first marriage to cheat, I never did. My first husband cheated on me many times. I eventually found out and divorced him. I am remarried to a great guy and I can still say I will never cheat and I know this man will never cheat on me.

Answer 9

At the present time I think about it but do not have the courage to do so. I have been faithful throughout my entire marriage over twenty eight years. Its not becuase he don't show me love but because sometimes I feel like I've missed something. I was is the only man thats ever touch me sexually. But at this very time in my life I will continue to me faithful.

Answer 10

I agree it would be the logical and smart thing to do to just be honest, but we live in a society that preaches a me first philosophy and poeple think it's all about me, instead of thinking it through about how their actions would affect their spouse, or even think about their spouse and their spouses feelings and neededs before their own.