Problem at job?

Question

Problem at job?
hello everyone! im in a bit of confusion right now at my job, there' a fellow co-worker(supervisor) that tends to critique me about something. today, for example, i recently had my hair styled and many gave me compliments, when she saw my hair she had to negatively comment about it has happened before. she asks me personal questions like i do i have a boyfriend and i give her short ended answers. she also questions why i stay to myself. what's her problem?

Answer 1

SIMPLY SAY I'M SORRY--THOSE ARE PERSONAL QUESTIONS. PERHAPS WE CAN CHIT CHAT ANOTHER TIME WHEN WE ARE NOT AT WORK. (WHICH WILL BE NEVER!!)

Answer 2

Well if your job is a do nothing job such that you have privilidge for basically just looking good, you should answer her questions and conform to the job or lose it. If your job is a job that does not particularly require entertainment value or it requires brute force and acceptable slang language etc, then you may act accordingly and keep that job. Your choice. You have to figure out where you fit socially with the job. If you don't fit, sooner or later they will can you unless you have real special skills that they cannot find anywhere else or are you being primed for an affair with the boss or a manager?

Answer 3

Hi! Your "co-worker's problem" is that you are not being professional and firm enough with her. A person who criticizes others all the time has a huge ego deficit. They feed on uncertainty. It is easy to keep picking at one who doesn't seem to be able to pinpoint whether they have the right to feel insulted and to show it. You could start out slowly so your co-worker knows, just as the gathering clouds are harbingers of a huge storm, she is in deep kemshi if she continues on this track. You could say something like, "Mrs Jones, it seems you are curious about me. I would be happy to answer any questions related to my work. Is there anything about me that relates to my job you would like to know, or are your questions strictly about my personal life?" This takes you out of the "victim" mindset, and puts her squarely in her place, namely, OUT of your business and your emotions. If she persists, have some thoughts prepared in advance that will let her know you will still be a class act and she cannot get a rise out of you. She should give it up. If not, there are plenty of ways to make money in this world without dealing with an anal bully. Best of luck to ya!

Answer 4

Don't take her criticism personally. As you have pointed out, most people have complimented you. Keep those positive comments in your mind at all times and spend less time with negative people.

When she criticizes you, tell her "you are entitled to your opinion" and walk away with a smile on your face, replaying all the positive comments in your head. When she asks personal questions, say "why do you ask?" or "I'm happy with things the way they are..."

Check out the links below--they list some great techniques!

Answer 5

Her problem is that she has nothing better to do than be a busybody. Your tactic of giving brief answers is a good one, but you might enhance it by being "friendly but frazzled" - although SHE seems to have time to dig into your personal life, YOU certainly don't because you are rushing off to a meeting, need to dig into a new project, etc. Vague, non-committal answers to personal inquiries, combined with being really busy should get her to leave you alone eventually.

Answer 6

You can't please everyone. Some people just don't get along with others.

But if it's your supervisor than you can't really do anything because she out ranks you.

Just try not to get on her bad side. :(

Answer 7

looks like she might be interested in you