is there anyone else who has been through hell trying to get pregnant?

Question

For over 2 years now my husband and I have been ttc. My whole life I have delt with endo and severe pain but not until I went in to do my fertility work up did any dr. ever think of doing a laparoscopy until a year ago and finally diagnosed me with endo and removed some scar tissue and told us to try again for a few months then go on lupron. well 4 months went by and then I went on the lupron did 6 months and now I feel so out of wack I'm crying and not sleeping and the worst part of all is my husband has the most fertile family in the world is seems like every family function someone is announcing they are pregnant. So I just want to know if anyone else is going through anything similar.

Answer 1

Yeap I'm going through the same, cried numerous nights, TTc 2 years, all my friends who didn't want babies 2 years a go are having their second ones now and I keep trying and still nothing. I have unexplained infertility as well, nobody found nothing wrong with us, yet we're still not pregnant :'(

Answer 2

You need this website: www.fertilethoughts.com. There are all sorts of forums where women just like you and me share our rotten feelings and support each other. I go to the IVF board, but there are many other boards to suit where you are in your journey. It had been a lifesaver for me over my 7 year battle to conceive my 1st child.

What you are feeling is COMPLETELY normal. Infertility is devastating, and I went into a sever depression for a few years with it. The good news is that you will rise above it eventually, although the lovely drugs don't help, do they? They don't call it Loopy Lupron for nothing.

Something that may help is a game plan. How far are you willing to go to have a baby? It may be time to sit down with your hubby and come up with a plan. It may include clomid and IUIs as a first round of treatment (usually 3 months), and then IVF if neccessary. My plan included international adoption eventually, although I resisted the idea of adoption at first. It is SO scary to face things like IVF and adoption (especially the costs) but it always feels good to know what the next step is.

Please check out Fertile Thoughts as you will realize how normal your feelings are. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

Double (((HUGS))) to you! I know EXACTLY what you're going through. Reading your question felt like I was reading a chapter from my life! My husband and I got married in '03 and started trying right away. We tried for about a year, and then I ended up having a laparoscopy. I have endometriosis, and my doctor removed scar tissue. That was in March of '05 and in July of '05 I became pregnant. My daughter will be turning one in April, and I want to start trying as soon as possible because we had such a hard time conceiving her. Just know that there are people out there who are going or have gone through the same thing. I really felt alone during that horrible time-thinking something was wrong with me, or God was punishing me for something I had done wrong. I was trying to think of SOMETHING that could explain why I wasn't getting pregnant. That time was pure HELL and I felt so alone. I hope you get to the other side of this with a beautiful baby in your arms :) If you need to talk to someone who knows what this is all about, e-mail me anytime! [e-mail]

Answer 4

I was one of the first of my friends to marry. My husband and I began trying on our wedding night. 2 years later, on fertility medication, I gave birth to stillborn twin boys almost full term. It took another 2 years but we finally had a boy. We started trying again right away since I was getting older. It took another late term miscarriage and 4 more years to have our girl. All of my friends who met and married their husbands after me were on their 2nd or 3rd child while I was TTC number 1. I pictured us taking a vacation on our 10th anniversary and leaving our school aged kids with thier grandparents. Instead, I'm breastfeeding and changing diapers and the grandparents are too old! I feel your pain but know there is light at the end of the tunnel. Just an FYI: If you moved to a state where infertility treatment is covered by insurance (Massachusetts for example), you're Dr's won't be so conservative with your treatment and your dream might come true sooner. I can't think of a better reason to relocate! Good luck!

Answer 5

My daughter went through H*ll trying to get pregnate, She lost the first one, Then she had a beautiful baby boy Timmy.. then she found out again she was pregnate 3 months ago and lost that one last month, she was so tore up..inside, Her heart just ached.. I told her and I will tell you the same thing.. When the time is RIGHT you will have a baby..God knows what he is doing, for her she couldnt afford another baby right now, and Timmy is only a little over a year.. She had been trying to have a baby for 9 years when she finally had Timmy.. You will also concieve, When the time is right..Stop worrying.. :)

Answer 6

My experience was not similar to yours. I had no problem getting pregnant, my problem was staying pregnant. So when it comes to the emotional hell, I completely understand and empathize with you. You feel like you're not a member of this special club - like you're on the outside looking in. You feel like no one understands how exhausting it can be, and what you are going through, and you know what? They don't! After 5 miscarriages (2 were at 3 months), 2 surgeries, countless tests, and pallets of tissues, I decided I could not go through it anymore and gave up. Decided to look at adoption and/or accept that life could be just as fulfilling being the "auntie". And guess what???? Soon after my 5th miscarriage, I found I was pregnant. I wish I could tell my little girl she was conceived in this beautiful way, but honestly, I was a zombie after that last one and don't even remember how it happened! Maybe there was something about me just letting go? But now I've got this daily reminder of the wonderful miracle of life. And life begins with you - so put yourself first, give yourself time and know that you are not alone. Spend time with your friends and the people you love, and most of all, take care of yourself. There are women who understand and are going through similar experiences. I found that support and those women became my special club. And I ain't cancelling my membership! Good luck to you, sister

Answer 7

You are not alone. My husband and I have been TTC for 2 years and I have not been diagnosed with anything but "unexplained infertility", which in and of itself is a slap in the face.

We are just getting our new insurance April 1 so we are jumping headfirst into testing, and damn what the doctors say about temping and stuff.

Hang in there girl.

There are some wonderful support groups online. One of them in particular is WebMD's Infertility Support Group which can be found here: http://boards.webmd.com/webx?[e-mail].1@.5987f474

Answer 8

Hello, I am not going through what you are going through, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. I have a friend with endo and it's bloody awful. Don't worry about your husband's fertile family just focus on yourself! Best of luck to you and your husband.

Answer 9

Oh honey ((hug)) I have been there and it hurts like hell.
you need to try to calm down though so your body can get preggo , it sounds like you are on the way to geting there. maybe try to not go to the family things for a few months .. relax and be all about you!! make love to your hubby when the 2 of yoy should be out with the family:)
hang in there dear .. remember a mother just isnt birthing it is love that you have in your heart..
my thought are with you
baby dust

Answer 10

My husband and I were ttc for over three years. We tried Chlomid, taking temps, did all the testing, unexplained infertility. We ended up doing intra-uterine insemination with superovulation. If you have any questions about that you can e-mail me at [e-mail].

Good luck!

By the way - we now have almost 16 month old twins!! :)