My wife of several years a few years ago let me know she hated me with a passion and it seemed to me she could not even tolerate the space I took on the Planet to live my life. I would try and stay away from her at the end of the marriage and she would hunt me down just to do her bitchy thing and cut me to pieces with her talk. I would not defend my self as it was useless she woild tell me I was verbally abusing her if I made any comments as she raged on and on. I am much older now and have seen several guys go through somewhat of the same thing. Be living life, working, being a husband, and father, then right out of the blue the lady would let the guy know she was finished with him. I have thought of this through the years and have talked with other guys and well we are just in the dark on this. Some of our wives have remarried and others have not. And as far as I know we are all what I consider nice guys, family type. Why did our wives decide to hate us with such passion.
2007-03-14 16:05:45 · 21 answers · asked by will5877 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
>Did you cheat on her? I consider that a pretty good reason to hate with such passion. Other than that, she is crazy...good riddance.
2007-03-14 16:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by Yahoogirl 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I hated my ex-husband. But he was a cheater and well he had many issues. If you are a nice guy then maybe she was just a mean women. One thing did stand out to me about what you said. "This in know way would excuse her actions". But you said you would never fight back. I know that would be some thing that would bother me. If I was yelling at him and insulting him, I would only hope that he would stand up for himself.
I no of some guys who will not say anything about anything. This would drive me NUTS.... I also no of some girls who love to fight with there men all the time. I honestly think that some people are just so used to this that its there "normal". Until they can see that its not, there isn't much that would be able to be done...
LOL I am so sorry I seem to be getting into a bad habit of going on and on.... lol Have a good day.
2007-03-14 16:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by mrs.mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something like this happen to me to. I am not perfect but who is. Great family, 2 boys, she had good job I have good job she wanted to work and did. But home became less and less to her as I look back. She said there was no one else and I had no one else. Had this friend his wife left him too she could not stand the ground he stood on. Nice family and no hanky panky either. She went on to be a Doctor and has yet to remarry been about 10 years or so when we met our fate. And boy do they try and make our lives hell after the divorce like with visits with our children. And who knows how many times I been dragged back to court for more money and the number of times I have been threatened with jail as the Judge would back date his order so I would have to pay more, never live in Indiana as the female gets it all and the guy just keeps on giving. Counseling oh yea they even take the ladies side and even at this after wards she would say she was not going to change anything after about a year I gave up on this as it was useless. O and she still hates me to this day why I do not know.
2007-03-14 16:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lets see, If your so nice and family type, then you have to consider the fact that you were married younge in your life and if she was a stay at home mom. Did she have activities other then pregnate and barefooted.......... plus some female just like some males are asses and act the part. Females get fustrated and take there anger out on the world , or the person that loves them the most.
2007-03-14 16:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by chillyndrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you went through that. Being a married woman, I can honestly say that I haven't ever "hated my husband with a Passion", I may merely dislike him at times, like when he leave car parts on my kitchen table, and muddy shoes on my coffee table. My uncle went through a similiar thing, turns out his wife was cheating on him. Could be why some wives turn into such bitter, screaming banshees. I hope you find happiness with a good woman. Good luck!
2007-03-14 16:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by missjax72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. U would think if u guys were "good guys" as u say, they wouldnt have done what they did.
So......r u being truthful about what u consider to be a good guy?
Another thing.....depending on the age.....could have been menapause.....hormonal thing. Uncontrollable hate. All kinds of things.
I cant help but think that there is a reason behind her behavior other than just "out of the blue". U men did something to trigger the behavior, or she found someone else....one of the two.
2007-03-14 16:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In marriage you either grow together or you grow apart. Were you putting your job and your friends ahead of her? Do not forget what is important in a marriage and always take the time to tell your wife she is just as beautiful now as she was the day you married her. Sometimes we need our egos boosted. We do not do well when we feel like just the live in housekeeper and nanny with sexual benefits. Men have to remember we are sensitive individuals with feelings.
2007-03-16 06:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by jonsgirl1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people start loving with a passion, and then it all ends, they end up hating with a passion it is just human nature. Well my theory is you just did not give her what she wanted in the marriage, and she hates you for not figuring it out. Women can give mix signals, and I know we can be tough on you men, but you do have a choice you can love us or leave us it is that plain and simple!
2007-03-14 16:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do I say...some women need a good shrink and some heavy drugs.
Really, truth is there are crazy hormonal changes that occur in women that change them, their attitude and how they relate to another person. They have anger and take it out on you.
In another life, you described me. But, with counseling and the right medication (not a chang of my personality type) I'm fine. Many women need to have their hormonal levels checked often to get them back in sink.
There are good women out there. Try to read the signs but when they start to blow up - talk to them. Get them help and be understanding - but don't be abused.
2007-03-14 16:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by Diana 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If what you have said, and efforts to save the marriage fails, I think you need to consider divorce? It not be fair for you to tolerate abusive words from her and with prolong time, it may make you feel degraded and lack of self-confidence. I understand your situation very well and I can relate to that. So go ahead, get a lawyer and divorce her. (Although it breaks my heart to see so many marriages breaking up because couples tend to take their spouses for granted. Yes it is very sad.) Good luck.
2007-03-14 16:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like these women were unhappy in their marriage for years and by the time they decided to leave they hated the husband with a passion.
This happens when there's no communication.
2007-03-14 16:12:57 · answer #11 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋