why is it that when you are in the group, they leave you out of the plans they tend to be doing for the day?

Question

For instance, it never fails. When ever I'm in a group particularly females, they tend to leave me out of things. Like today, the group goes to a friend's house and I am not there. We come back together and we're fine...Anyway what was suggested was a slumber party for tonight, the group say they are not going and I want to go but it doesn't happen. So I'm really trying really hard not to think that they are purposely leaving me out but actions like this tell me they are. I could voice it out and have voiced it but they will use a pity excuse to say "we're not leaving you out you're just busy". So what can I honestly do. My answer is to just leave the group and do my own thing because basically all my life groups they I've been in do this. But also when I am in another group or have distanced myself from that group they want to include me in things. So how can I deal with this constructively and not becomne a recluse or better yet just have associates and no friends?

Answer 1

Because I was terribly shy I over-compensated by becoming the class clown which can be funny for a little while but then eventually wears people out because they have to constantly respond. Sometimes people want to be quiet, or not talk, or be serious. If you act out way too much then you could wear people down. You may be the lemon on the ice tea...good for a little while but too much ain't good. You can overcome it by quietly observing. Also, if you are too shy to speak up and people have a hard time understanding you then they will begin to shine you on as it is too wearing for them to constantly compensate for you. Doesn't mean they don't like you though. If you have ADD then you may not be in the same reality as they are but in your own dream land. There are meds for that. One of the things I keep talking about on here is how the scriptures tell us we are fearfully and wonderfully made, the very hairs of our head are numbered and we each one have at least one gift. Also, since we are to love others as we love ourselves then we cannot truly love others until we like who we are. God bless...Mmm

Answer 2

Well, youre not a gold coin like to be likely to anybody, if you feel like that, just give them time, there may be to main reasons for it to happen:
1- You are out of the trend, maybe you have too much information, maybe you don´t shut your mouth while saying something you know, maybe you aren´t completely hillarious, or
2- maybe you just dont show interest on hanging with them.

Any of the reasons, you also have to learn to be by yourself over being in a group, remember you hace come alone to earth and you will leave alone, being by yourself may either show more options, or become a better person.