I've been married for 12 years , love my husband but hate sex, i'm sick often and busy mom , is this common?
2007-03-14 16:03:36 · 36 answers · asked by momfrenchie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you don't hate it. You might not have the drive for it but there is no reason in hating it.
2007-03-14 16:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by L3monDr0p 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe "hate" is not the word. Perhaps it is "boredom." Trying new things, different routines, surprises, etc. can really spice up your sex life. The majority of women have nothing but busy schedules anymore, between kids, work, sports, doc appts. etc. You need to find the time for intimacy for you and your husband and make it special. Sex can be wonderful, if you can look at things in a new light.
2007-03-14 16:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by Nunya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seriously hate sex??? why? maybe cos u r so stressed all the time. did you ever try taking some time out and just relax the two of you and fool around a little??? did you love it then?? if you haven't been emotionally scarred or extremely stressed there isn't any reason why you wouldn't like sex. may be your husband needs to help u out a lot around the house so that you can have the time to hit bed early and may be you will love some early morning sex. or he can also help u out first and then give a nice oil massage and may be that will turn u on.
but work on it. marriage depends a lot on good sex. and we as human beings r entitled to it, even more when we get married and stay committed.
so relax, ok?
2007-03-14 16:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by naturalized 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hated it too for a while. Mostly when my kids were young and we were struggling so hard to just survive. But now when the kids are all grown and gone it is something that I enjoy. I was just too tired and stressed to relax enough to want it. My hubby complained alot and would become angry which make my reactions worse. But now I do like it. So there is a light at the end of the tunnel if you and your hubby can hang on. Good Luck.
2007-03-14 19:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Praire Crone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there before,very often if our partner is persistant about wanting sex all the time,it becomes a huge problem in the relationship because quite frankly if I were getting poked at all night for a little nookie from Mr.Winkie then it would become another chore that I just dont want to do.
2007-03-14 16:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by FYIIM1KO 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes...very common! My husband is sick and impotent and I am too busy working and taking care of the household now to think and worry about it.
In fact when it do cross my mind, I am too tired to think further. What I really need daily is sleep and rest!! But I don't hate sex just don't get it and no time for it either!
2007-03-14 16:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This has happened to busy women, and to busy men. Sometimes after a long, hard day, people are just too exhausted to bother. If it goes on for too long (like where your husband starts complaining about it), you should probably speak to a doctor about it.
It is common.
2007-03-14 16:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes this is common but very sad that you cannot enjoy being intimate with your husband. I used to be and feel just like you do. But with help and counseling i am better now and can actually enjoy being with my husband at times. You may need counseling and therapy to enjoy this with your husband. This probably is very frustrating to your husband as well and i do not want to see you loose your marriage over this. Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help in this matter. Hope this helps some. Have you talked to a doctor about your feelings about sex ? Medication may help you as well.
2007-03-14 16:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes. i haven't slept with my husband in over a year and a half.
. the thing is, we've only been married for 4 yrs. the sex was never that great anyway.
i would rather read a good book or watch t.v.
after a while, you think maybe the men would stop wanting it, at least when they get to be old like us, but noooooo, they had to make viagra!
2007-03-14 16:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by orange sky 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You contradict yourself how can you say you love him and not want to be with him? Have sex share intimate feelings.... I don't get people like you, women/men who claim to love but don't put into the relationship. Next time say you care for him as a person because it is way obvious you don't love him as a man. If you loved him you would want/desire him. Unless there is a physical problem like you find intercourse painful. But that is not what you said you said you hate sex as in general. If he cheats on you it serves you right. Is he suppose to stop being a man just because you decide you don't need it. Or desire it. As a woman who has had a partner who seems to think sex is wrong. My heart goes out to your poor husband.
2007-03-14 16:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Not too common, but there are some women like that. I once had a girlfriend in Australia who hated sex. Ooh, my ex-wife too.
2007-03-14 16:08:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋