we been marry know for seven years this is or second child together and i found out he had cheated because the doctor had confirm me about a infection i got...his been my first on everything i have always respect him and been loyal when he was deployed(twice)..should i leave him and start out fresh...he has hit while pregnant and blame me for his reason of cheating..called me names and wasent good enough...i feel depressed
2007-03-14 16:00:07 · 23 answers · asked by itza 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi... sometime we do not have enough experience to make judgement in our life!!! So i suggest you only have to follow what your inner voice say to you.I also suggest going for counselling alone or with him....
Cheating is also a mind problem. No one will want to complicate their life by cheating on their partner.I not saying you need to stay with him but you need to sort it out ASAP!!!
Do not get yourself in a depression state. You did no mistake to make yourself go through depression. I been through it.It only complicate things further.You cannot even depend on yourself for support if you let yourself go.. The person who can help you through these is yourself with a stable mind set.
Do talk to a family member or close friend.
And please go counselling dear... take care!!!
2007-03-14 16:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for what he's put you through. If he were at all repentant, there might be a chance to save your marriage. As it stands, his blaming you is a clear sign that he isn't sorry. You will never be able to trust him again. If he is hitting you, this is a definite red flag. Take your children and go NOW, before he hurts you very badly or starts hitting your kids. If you have no safe home to flee to, go to a woman's shelter. They will help you get on your feet. Best to leave him a "dear John" letter and go while he is out of the house. He may get violent.
2007-03-14 23:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's abusive. You deserve better than that! You should really talk to someone who is more experienced and understanding of this situation. Call a woman's crisis line (from the front pages of the phone book). He doesn't love you if he's hitting you, calling you names and cheating on you. It will only get worse. Leave him for your childrens' sake. He'll hurt them too.
2007-03-14 23:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by •√¡rgő• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
odverously ur husband isnt a real man n needs 2 grow up n ur not 2 blame b cause hes a dirty bag thats not ur flaut n yea u sound like a strong u should start fresh n be on ur own u dont need him n also the reason y he keeps cheatin b cause he knows that u will take him back well stop part of it is ur flaut b cause u let him walk all over n treat u like crap which u dont need n what is he teaching ur children hes a bad influnce n thats bad b cause u dont want ur children 2 learn that behavor n think thats normal n ur children r gonna grow up treat others like that
2007-03-14 23:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok your husband cheated. Whether you get divorced or not is up to you. If he has hit you and has verbally abused you you HAVE to have proof if you want to use that as grounds for divorce. His cheating won't be grounds however if he gave you an STD it could be considered grounds IF you can proove that you didn't have sexual realtions with another man. And the proof can't be simply word of mouth it has to be absolute fact. In order to prove he has been physically abusive you will have to show photos, doctor/hospital records and even police reports. To prove verbal abuse yuo have to bring in people who have witnessed it or have recordeings.
2007-03-14 23:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find someone new, he isn't good enough for you. Chances are he has cheated more than once on you, you just found out this time. Don't take him back no matter how much he says he is sorry and won't do it again. He will and is only sorry that you caught him.
Find someone that will be good to you, there are plenty of them out there.
2007-03-14 23:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Off the cuff, I say yes, leave. Not for the cheating but for the blame and abuse. Not right. However, leaving someone is difficult so I'd recommend you talk with a counselor, divorce counselor or therapist before you make your decision.
2007-03-14 23:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by Diana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel you can ever trust him again and he is becoming abusive you need to get out. It won't get any better trust me. You don't want your children growing up thinking that is they way a man should act and you must think of them first. What if the next hit kills you or your baby? Please don't stay. There are plenty of places that will help you get away and if you need anything I am always on here. Best of luck!
2007-03-14 23:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
normally if a man was concerned for his marriage and loved his wife, he would show remorse, and be sorry, and not add insult to injury by blaming his cheating on her. but instead of owning up to his deeds, he nae calls, hits, gave u a disease, and still fails to be accountable. it is just a matter of time before he leaves u for someone else, because he is disrespecting u, a man who loves his wife, won't behave toward his wife like that.
2007-03-14 23:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Itza Bout time u leave his ***, thats not even cool. You dont deserve that hunny. Find someone who can respect you, years have nothing to do with it, if he cant treat you right, move on. Once they do it they get addicted and he WILL do it again, and I dont wanna see you asking this question again on here in 6 months or so, dont stay with him.
Please, I hate seeing good women suffer for ruthless assholes
2007-03-14 23:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋