im 14 years old and left out?

Question

ok listen right. im a 14 year old girl and im always left out when im with my friends. i feel inscure, and lonely when im with them. they even forget that im there. i feel that they and other people dont want to talk to me because im ulgy or something. how do i start talking more and why do i feel that nobody likes me? somebody please answer my questions please. im goin to high school next year and i dont want to be the odd one out and i dont people just walking all over me and i dont say anything. PLEASE HELP.

Answer 1

maybe you are deprest or bipolar or something, if they don't talk to you they must not be friends, i mean why would you call someone your friend if they exclude you from stuff and don't talk to you?

Answer 2

If your friends ignore you, they aren't really your friends, are they? Sweety, I so felt the same way when I was your age. It is so important to be careful who you fall in with. Just be the best you you can be. That is all you can do. If your friends are really your friends, they will LISTEN to you and value your opinion. You may be going through an awkward phase(most young women do in the early stages of puberty), but take care of your self. Eat right more often than not, (that doesn't mean leave chips and chocolate alone altogether. Just have ONE day a week when you allow yourself to eat that). Exercise-even if it means going for a short walk around the block every day. Something is better than nothing. Concentrate more on school more than popularity.
I am only telling you the things I wish I had done when I was in middle and high school. I still managed to graduate, but I feel like I lost so much time worrying about what everyone thought of me, instead of learning to love myself inspite of what others said. Now I'm a woman, and I do love me-but it took a long time.
I'm babbling aren't I. Sorry! I wish you all the best. Just be the best you that you can possibly be, love you for all you are, and the RIGHT friends will come along if you show yourself friendly.(compassionate...don't try to buy friends. It gets expensive!)

Answer 3

OK, I am almost 23 years old. I felt left out all through school. Even highschool. I had 2 real friend my senior year and that was it. The way I see it is people are immature in school and even if you are left out at school. family can be better. My favorite people are my aunt and mother now...although in my teens I couldnt stand my mother. I am really pretty and really nice, but I still don;t have any friends besides those 2 people from HS. I still feel lonely but I also cant find people I like for friends. My Best friend is my Husband. Him and my family is all I need. I still wish I had more friends once in a while, but I also enjoy not having friends sometimes because all the drama that friends have. But I have my Aunt that I love love love to hang out with. She and my mother are better friends than any friend I ever had. And are SOOOO much fun. I figured that out about the age of 18-19. Maybe you can learn from me and build a good relationship with your parents and they can make you happy. I wish I realized my mother was ALWAYS right growing up that way I had a good relationship with her in my younger years. But I know it now so its ok. Don;t be embarassed to be seen at the mall with her. You should never care what anyone says.

Answer 4

A lot of teenage girls feel insecure so you're not alone. Don't feel ugly just because you think no one wants to talk to you. Maybe you should assert yourself a little more - start conversations about little things: what was on TV the night before, what they have planned for the weekend.etc. But if your friends still ignore you, maybe they're not the right friends. High school may be the chance to get some new friends who'll actually love you for who you are. Put yourself out there but remember to always be yourself. Good luck - but I'm sure you'll be fine anyway.

Answer 5

same thing happend to me you need to start being more social start talking to different people and those "friends" of yours are not good friends if they make you feel left out. Join a club or a sport there you will feel part of something and make new friends! Also you should start saying that you are beautiful you need to bring up your self-esteem cuz if you don't believe others won't.

Answer 6

if your friends are like that get new friends,say hi to people be nice,oh and if you have alot of teenage drama and your worried about people talking about you just ignore it because just think when you go home you dont have to deal with that mess.just focus on getting through schooli bet your a very beautiful girl.be tough i know its hard.lift your head up high.and i know people have to like you.besides when you get into high you'll have so much stuff goin you want even have time for friends.oh when your with your friends get into whatever ther doing as long as it isnt drugs,have fun,have a sleepover

Answer 7

Its a phase. I went through it too. Now I'm in high school and I'm way more out-going. Just go up to random people and saying hello/ make conversation is fun and you could make a new friend.

Answer 8

Ask yourself this: Is it such a bad thing to be left out? Honey, being left out has its positive points as well as negative. On the postive side you could branch out and make more friends, or should I say make new friends. These girls can't really be your friends if the leave you out. You could try to give them one more chance, but I wouldn't. The final decision is up to you so you future is in your hands, not your friend's hands, not your mom's hands, not your counseler's hands, YOURS. You got the power.
-Cree

Answer 9

sounds like you may want to work on your self esteem. good for recognizing this problem. if you do not work with it, it may continue on through your adult life as well - feeling left out at work, with adult friends, etc. you can check out books at the library if you are not comfortable talking about this to anyone. or if you are, talk to an adult you trust; they may be able to help you with getting into counseling. best of luck.

Answer 10

sometimes i feel like that when i have all 7 desks in the back of the science room...so far...so alone...but aside from that try to be more social with the other people. I am also 14.

Answer 11

maybe you need to find a new set of friends for a change... make friends with people who will accept you for who you are and will be true to you... you can find friends at school or in your neighborhood, and once you have, treat your new friendship as you would a flower... shower it with love and care and let it grow... who knows? those new friendships just might make a difference in your life...

good luck!